Depression

[Sadforver]

I am an 18 year old. Since i was a freshman about 3 years ago i started dating this guy who i really liked, he was sweet, always made me laugh, and we both fell in love with each other . He is a year older so now he is in a different city on college and im in my senior year but since than our relationship has gotten worse we haven’t seen each other for 2 months, we always fight, i dont know what to think or do, he has sometimes offended me badly or taken money from me , but i can not live without him these have been the worst 4 month of my life . Everyday i see a dream like he texts me that he loves me and when i see nothing when a wake up a sorrow takes over my soul. I think im depressing

[Aims_Namast]

Rephrase your last sentence: you are not depressing, you are human who ultimately wants love. Become your best friend and treat yourself with respect. Relationships are so much fun yet so complicated at the same time. I’m 26 years old and if I was with the man I was in love with when I was 18, I would be significantly unhappy. With that said, it’s still not easy, I get that. Sometimes I still relapse in thinking I want that man I loved but I know what’s the best thing for me. From an outside perspective, someone who truly loves you doesn’t take money from you nor should they offend you. I have been there where I’m hoping for that text where he says he wants to be with me but why should we be waiting for someone who clearly doesn’t make us their #1 priority. Stay true to who you are and you will get through this!

[Hidden]

You are very young and have no idea of all the great things that are install for you, I am so much older than you are however i still recall what it is like to be young and waiting for the phone to ring, and it never did and feeling broken hearted, and that there would be no one else, but there was and many more, you will survive all this, you will get over it move on and you will meet someone new just give it time and look forward to what is next

[dore13]

okay, I am going to tell you something and I am sure you will blow off my answer like I did when I was 18. You are young, you have your whole life ahead of you. I know that when you are that age you still have tunnel vision, your whole world is very small still. It may seem like you "can't live without him", but you will find as you get older and wiser, there is so much more to life than wrapping all your happiness around one guy. While at college, he and even you will grow and really find out who you are as person, you will realize there are parts of yourself you haven't even discovered. Your happiness cannot come from any other person, you have to be happy with yourself! If you can learn that one thing right now, you will save yourself YEARS of heartache. I have not known anyone who has stayed with their High School sweetheart, even the ones that got married! If things were meant to work out, they would, but it doesn't seem to be in the cards from what you are describing. I was very stubborn when I was your age, I refused to listen to anyone because I thought I was the one who would beat the odds..... so instead of seeing things as they were, I turned a blind eye, and all it did was cause myself a great deal of pain in the end. I wish I could say something supportive and everything will be sunshine and rainbows, but life doesn't always give us that. I am sorry, but you should focus on your health, well being, and living your life. I wish you the best.

[Made4Match]

Hi there,

Something I'd like to share with you and you may not agree; you can live without him. I know that may be hard to read and even more challenging to process or agree with, but YOU CAN. You've lived your life before he came into it, and you'll continue to live it if you two part ways. Please know I say this with so much love!

I once thought I couldn't live without the guy I was with. I wasn't truly happy and I thought my life wouldn't exist if he wasn't in it. But, one day I woke up and realized I was in the drivers seat of my own happiness. If I wanted to be happy, truly happy, I needed to make a change. My happiness wasn't dependent on someone else, or where I lived or what I was doing...it was MY choice. Honestly, it wasn't a choice I wanted to make. Choices have consequences and deep down I think I knew if I made changes and STILL wasn't happy, it would still be up to me to make more changes until I was.

The main point I'd like to hit home, YOU DO DESERVE HAPPINESS. If you're not happy in this current relationship, please don't allow fear to keep you in it. It's okay to take a break and think some things through, take time for yourself and just process. It's okay for you to walk away and work on creating your own joy and happiness.

You deserve to be loved for who you, for the things you do, and the person you are becoming. You deserve to have someone cheer you on in all things and to celebrate the little things as well as the big things. Please don't sell yourself short on what you need.

I'm here for you if you'd like to chat more! You're more than welcome to send me a private message!