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Just want to ask one question:

How many of us live on the what if's? How many of us spend countless hours worrying about something that has never happened? Someone asked that today and it really stuck with me. How about you? Is there something you can remember worrying over and it never did happen?

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hi terriltwin,i wish that was the case with me,because every thing did happen,sadly enough

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I am sorry to hear that, truly. I am sure you are strong. I know this life is so hard. When we get through the storms of life we can look back to see how far we have come. Prayers for you.

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thanks,in harbour,right now sitting this latested storm out.by peek

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terriltwin2, those two words "what if" have brought more fear into my

life then the issue itself. I now do Mindful Meditation in order to keep

myself in the present moment. Things do happen in life but why wear

ourselves down emotionally before we even get there.

Great post. xx

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terriltwin2 in reply to Agora1

Thank you so much, I am just wanting to encourage others. This life is so hard. I was asked by my pastor once, When I was telling something I was scared was going to happen, he simply said, " what if it does?" and then he asks, " If it does, where are your strength and faith coming from?" I simply thought, my strength and faith will come from the heavens above, the spirit who has me in his hands. We can't control what goes on in our lives, the circumstances and situations and people are always changing, but God never changes. His promises were true 2,000 years ago and they stand true in my life today.

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Amen.... x

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hi terriltwin,what you say is trou,i tried to comit suiside 2 weeks ago.by all reason I shove have died,with out a dout,some one did not want me to go yet,i will leave it up

to him next time,peek

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You are strong and there is hope. Have you spoken with a counselor? I would encourage you to read Psalm 34:18. It says that God is with those who are crushed in spirit. He definitely protected you. He loves you and he created you. So you have a purpose and hope. These trials are only temporary and you will get through. You are worthy of living and worthy of a happy season in your life. I am here for you to talk to. No judging no persecution. People need to talk and they need to get things out, it helps. I am going to leave you with a number, it is a free number with a counselor on the other end who can help you in your dark hours. Its free of charge. You hang in there and know you are worth Jesus dying on the cross for.

855-382-5433

Prayers for you. I am happy that you are talking about your situation. That shows great strength and courage.

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thanks teriltwin,i was brort up a catherlic,they were 7 of us,o live in England and

the part of England being Salford,we lived in a slum area then days rite next to the

docks,my father being a docker use to set off to work,by just walking down the

cobbled road.to work.the next street to ours were a irish family of guess what 7 kids.sundays the 2 familys used to walk together to st josephs rc church down the road when in the church our 7 sat on the back isle to the left the irish family to the

right.it was loverly priest used to hold up mass until we all arrived.those were

loverly years nobody had any money,but we all managed,like,quing up for scratchings from the chippy,scratchings were the left overs at the bottom of the

pan.they charged us 2penies a bag.whitch we shared out between the 9 of us

mam and dad.ive allway had faith in god until my later years when I kind of lost

faith.depression gets you that way,you kind of blame god for everthing that goes

wrong don't you.my I did not mean to keep you so long,ill let you go now by

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though the things we got were more appreciated than is Hard times in those days,and being bought up Catholic myself .1 of 8 was tough times ---im in Scotland-----parents both I talian…...no love ,and not much food ,but we just got on with life --

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terriltwin2 in reply to lorianxiety

I appreciate you sharing. I enjoy reading what peoples lives were and are like. We remember the early years, the roots, the foundation that was laid by our parents and ancestors. Things are so different in this world now. Life was simple when I was growing up. Not much, but I did have a good foundation of love and acceptance. My dad used to say this to us, it was written by Winston Churchill, It has always stuck with me and I say it from time to time. " Success is not FINAL, Failure is not FATAL, it is the courage to CONTINUE that counts." Having money and success can be gone in a blink of an eye. Failure is something we learn from, and continuing on with life is the courage we have to make our life count. Having a foundation of courage and knowing when it isn't there, My God is there for me makes all the difference in the world.

Well, I don't want to worry anyone but the stuff I worried about for years did happen but I learned a valuable lesson. That which doesn't kill us, makes us stronger. I worried about a car wreck and was afraid to drive for years. I did have a bad wreck three years ago in which the car caught fire and I was hurt and trapped. OK, it happened but I survived. I learned that things will happen regardless of our worry. You can't prevent those things unfortunately but good things happen to if we let go and let them. It's like my favorite part of the movie Finding Nemo, the father is such a hovering worry wart and Dory says to him, you can't never let anything happen to him, then nothing will ever happen to him. Meaning good or bad. Just live like it's your last day and take it as it comes, good and bad.

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aaronm

I do both and I did it today. So can I remember a time. Yes. I can.

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terriltwin2 in reply to aaronm

Thank you for sharing with us. I think it takes a lot of courage to share that you are worried and an exercise I do is to get a piece of paper and write down the opposite of the negatives of worry. The word worry in the dictionary says: " To torment yourself with negative thoughts." So the some of the same words for worry are:

Fear

concern

doubt

anguish

The opposite for the word anguish is Happiness, what brings you happy times?

The opposite for the word Fear is Calmness, confidence. When are you most calm and when are you most confident? Is there a situation or a place where you feel most calm and confident? These things really help me, writing helps us and the quiet time to reflect will bring more perspective to why we are worrying. Life gets really hard and the more we can focus on positivity our life seems better.

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That's some very good and helpful insight.

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