learning change

[golden_hour]

Hi i'm new here. Not really, i have built up the courage to sign up to this support group about a month ago. I just read what people posted but never had the courage to actually post something, but today i have decided to take a baby step in over coming my discomfort of sharing what i feel. I have always been the one to help people with their problems, leaving myself shattered. I didn't do this because i wanted to hurt myself or anything, i solemnly did it because its what i'm comfortable doing. This is where learning change comes in. I have to learn to change for my own benefit, even when i'm uncomfortable with it.

[Iloveart7]

Welcome!

[Celtic27]

Hi there golden hour welcome to the group I hope it's all you thought is was don't be afraid we don't bite lol!, take care david 🐈

[EmbraceMyweirdness]

Welcome

[Stilltrying_]

Welcome and I understand that pattern. It is not selfish to think of yourself ; that is a lesson I have had to learn. Yes it is important to think of others and help but not to the detriment of yourself as in the end you will burn yourself out and not be any good to these people or able to help them.

I would suggest a little self care. Make sure you rest, do some things you enjoy.

Also it isn't selfish to talk about yourself. I have a friend who only listens and actually I really wish she would talk more about herself her views her feelings as this is making a positive contribution to a social situation and helping it along.

Glad you found the courage to post !!!