Social anxiety

[lovatic]

There is this group of nice girls at my school that I really want to be friends with, and I have no one else. They let me in, but I just sit there and do nothing because of social anxiety and I just don’t know what to say. I’m hoping that if I just keep pushing myself there I’ll get better with people. Does that really work? Also, Tips on how to be less shy?

[mixed-emotions]

I still deal with shyness but have come SUCH A LONG WAY! I hate being introduced to people, my biggest fear. For myself I always found I made friend or had boyfriends who were so outgoing. I tried little by little to overcome my obstacles and after a few 2-3 years of small triumphs I am much better in social situations then before. Even going to the restroom, just walking across that room I couldn't do and just held it.

I still have trouble accepting drinks even if a bottle of water or saying I'm thirsty but I have my moments where it seems to be no trouble.

[mixed-emotions in reply to mixed-emotions]

Making eye contact has always been easy for me but opening my mouth for a friendly hello was so hard. I started just saying hello to 2-3 people every day and just bumped up the number when I felt confident.

I also took mental notes of compliments such as clothing or hair and only bringing up positive things to talk about. I would strike up a conversation about the beautiful weather or someones hair style and found simple subjects about things that interested me brought up more reasons for me to talk.

[alvoltaris]

Hey young girl. Your situation is very common in every school and I bet that everyone have met it before. I finished school years many years ago, and I had some experience about this too.

So, first, let see if this group of girls are friendly. If they are, then don’t hesitate, just join their gossips, listen to their stories, show your interest and excitement, ask them more about their stories, about their activities, habits and hobbies. One other trick is that you can try to become close with 1 person first, then gradually, she will introduce to others.

If they don’t show any hospitality, you won’t need to waste your time anymore.

You’re wonderful girl. Remember that!

[higherpurpose]

Every person is different and I don't see anything wrong with being shy. But if you would like to make more friends, this means you will have to overcome your uncomfort zone. Sometimes we have to sacrifice something to gain something back. I believe that you can overcome this, and as you continue to grow and mature, talking to people might come easier or more natural. Sending you hugs.