💞Community 💞 this may be the only thing keeping some people alive.
It might even be the only time some people get to talk to other humans!
So let’s try to not push people away with pettiness or our need to be right and to prove a point.
It’s okay to let things go and not add fuel to the fire. Let it calm down . Bite our tongues, take a deep breath and let it go .
Our hearts and minds are more important than some petty argument or petty grudges against people we don’t even personally know at all x let’s spread love x
(I’m not preaching lol it’s a reminder for myself too)
I have not read the posts where the strong words occurred. I have read people's hurt and even leaving this site because of it. It breaks my heart. I know "hurt people hurt people". But we need to have some boundaries for this site so we can all feel safe. I don't know what those should be. We need to balance emotional safety with the ability to share from our hearts. I wonder if each person should speak for him/herself, focusing on the internal distress and venting about his/her life. Or the joys as well. Any feedback is constructive and encouraging. I also have seen what seem to be cliques. Inside jokes are being shared on threads. To me, this feels like I am being left out. Perhaps those things should be done in personal chats. I hope we can come together and support each other in a way that feels safe.
You’re right it’s very sad to see people getting upset having to leave to save their peace of mind . Yes we all have a personal responsibility to make sure we follow rules and keep things calm as possible and also of course whoever is in charge does their job too x
I’ve been told this time of the year can get difficult for people 😔 so we also need to try to be patient and let some things go sometimes (as difficult as it is) because they might just be hurting and lashing out like you said x
Am i missing something, i know im not on here like before
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No not much . Just few people been leaving and feeling attacked last few months x So I thought maybe a small reminder of how we need to be extra careful with our words on here and maybe extra patient with people too x
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This is suppose to be a safe environment, people should know better
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Yeah you are right! 💕
but everyone is hurt and everybody is fragile so a lot of patience and forgiveness is needed to make peace don’t you think ?
Great advice hope. Thank you! I tend to joke to much sometimes. I have to remind myself that its only funny when both people think its funny but you don't always know what the other person is going through.
Your thoughts are so important for this group. If we try to keep quiet about an opinion we can't support, we are helping others say what they need to say. That gives us the freedom to say what we need to say, too. But, saying it in a 'reply' may not always be helpful. I have yet to meet someone who has been anything but kind when they disagree with me. Hopefully that will continue. But, I do love a respectful exchange of opinions!
Hello yes I agree with you . I’m not talking about respectful discussions . I meant the trolling and when arguments go on for hours maybe its best to back away and leave it before anyone gets too hurt and leaves. Which means then they completely lose this support system .
I am glad you posted that even though it was a year ago. I needed to hear it now and to be reminded. I was recently feeling insulted by the first sentence of someone’s response to a post about me feeling conflicted about needing help again. The reply started with, You are obviously mentally ill.
This is a difficult time now with covid 19 isolation. I knew I was feeling . more sensitive. The rest of the reply was fine but it did not take much as I was already feeling down.
So thank you for posting that. It is always appropriate to keep in mind. We all need to be careful of our words.
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thanks Hope
We are all Number One
A suggestion to all of us on trying to solve our challenges - if your really hurting- read this (can’t hurt) Apologize for the length
We are all more alike than we realize
There is a fabulous site that I found on Facebook called “The Mighty”. Check out this article regarding behaviors caused by ANXIETY
