am tired of living like this, with anxiety. am about to give up, am confused. I have everything which i can ask for, but still am incomplete. I have severe headache now a days, I think am taking too much tension.
Am in condition where people around me don't even have clue what am going through, am tired of trying to be normal. Help me!!!
Hi goldie11 I will love to chat with you.
Redfox, it's not unusual to feel confused and incomplete. Anxiety has a way of
draining us from mind and body. Having the comforts of life around us doesn't
complete us when our mind is unfulfilled. The people around us who don't suffer
from anxiety will never understand what it's like to live like this every day.
The severe and on going headaches due to stress and tension need to be addressed,
psychologically and physically. It's your body telling you to back up a little, take stock
of what is going on in your life. Give yourself some "me time" and find a quiet place
to call your own for a while. Your head pain is about you at this time. When in pain
we all feel hopeless and ready to give up. This will pass and you will be able to think
more clearly.
Talking with a professional may help you find the deep down cause of feeling incomplete.
Your posts are so impacting on positivity. Keep reading them over and over as I do.
They make positive sense. Redfox, keep strong, keep positive. You will find yourself again. 
x
8 know how you feel, been suffering off and on for about 36 years, I've gone days without eating. Don't waste your time and energy trying to get anyone to get what you're going through, it had gotten so bad that my even my kids isolate me as a way of dealing with me. Friends and family don't believe anything I say, I get positive thought emails, lol like that's going to fix everything??? Are you going to therapy? Try medication, it took several different tries at changing medication and doctors to have a handle on my anxiety, don't get me wrong not everyday is good, but im eating regularly. So try those things if you haven't already?
No am not going to any therapy. I need to handle it my own. It's hard but have to handle it.
And yes, there's no way anyone can understand what we're going through. I am not even trying to let them understand, am trying to behave normally, which now is difficult. My diet was awful but now it's good, whatever happens I try to eat, even if I don't want. I learnt many things in last few months. I try to distract myself by watching videos and tv series. That's all I am doing. And hopefully everything will be fine.
Btw how are you now? Is everything fine?
Keep therapy in mind, anxiety is bigger than US, I gave therapy a try after I began looking for a gun wanting to take my own life. I took alot of pills when I was a teenager, there were just aspirin, just got a stomach ach. I never told my therapist about these things cause I was afraid I could get committed??? Finally found the right medication Mirtazapine, that had taken those feelings away. I still spend a lot of time inside and I suffer from insomnia, I live in California where it's after 5 am and I'm still awake. Thanks for writing... Please keep therapy and medication on the back burner just in Case???
Yes surely therapy is a excellent option. And I will surely go for it. Thanks a lot for sharing your experiences with me. I have joining for my Job in Jan, so am thinking I will try tharapy at that time only.
Glad to hear you WIll leave that option open, it can't hurt 🎄
There's no reason for not going for tharapy, so yes, I will go for it before the situation gets worst.
I'm sorry your feeling down. Are you in counseling or treatment?
Hey aaronm, no am not taking any counseling or treatment.
Am on this site because of that only, to meet people and share experiences and learn from other, and people like you are awesome, they helped me a lot. Thanks for asking.
And how are you ?? Hope you're doing well.
Thank you so much for writing in - what you experience is very real and I agree, people looking in from the outside will never know what it's like to live with extreme emotions and feel there is no way out. It is a silent war you fight inside, and sometimes you are your own enemy.
I would like to ask you, without sounding like I'm probing, what you have done up to this point to treat this disorder, or to overcome it?
I think it's critical to know what you are dealing with before you can make any attempts to fix the problem. For some people, it can be a genetic predisposition, or a chemical and hormonal imbalance, grief, disappointment, the result of poor diet choices, alcohol, medications, situational depression, etc.
Do you know what causes your depression? Sometimes it's a simple matter of finding just the right people who can help. Not all doctors, therapists, counselors, group supports, or pastors are the same, and since trust needs to be at the core of any relationship with a trusted professional or a trained certified individual, it's so important to do your research before setting up a visit. Call around and ask questions. Seek out those who can offer you some good direction.
This is such a huge topic, and everyone who struggles with depression has a different biochemistry they are dealing with. Be kind to yourself and promise yourself you will take one step at a time and gather information that will shed some light on what you can do. There are actually very many things a person can do to help themselves. The best to you.
Hi ladyO4, yes I think I know the reason for my anxiety and depression. And for that I started watching funny videos and some tv series, so that I can distract myself, other then that I started reading scriptures for peace, I am trying to be busy as more as I can. I go outside with friends.
Am I running away from things by distracting myself? I even tried thinking about things which cause Anxiety, I faced all the things which causes Anxiety. And i don't know if it's going to help or not by fighting things.
Thank you so much for writing back - it's think it's nice to have a place where we can talk openly and freely about our concerns.
If you think you are running away from things, ask yourself what you are doing to help the situation, and what you can be doing to make some changes. There is nothing wrong with watching fun movies, you deserve to laugh every now and then, but it can be a scapegoat if you choose to ignore the problem rather than face it head-on and treat the cause for the anxiety. It won't get better all by itself.
I read scriptures too, and they bring my focus back to where it needs to be.
The physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual side to the problem all need to be addressed when dealing with anxiety, because they overlap and effect each other. So a change in diet switching over to whole foods only, understanding why daily exercise influences anxiety, counseling with the right kind of spiritual leader, letting scriptures bolster your faith, and educating yourself on how your brain works can all be good starting points. It sounds complicated but it's really not once you adopt a new lifestyle.
Actually I should thank you for replying me and helping me out.😅and I don't know which one to do, should I fight with cause or hide it with distracting myself?
I tried both, fighting helped me a lot, it allowed me to move forward, although it take time to heal.
And distraction is instant relief, but it's like am not moving at all, staying at same place.
I thought about issues because of Which I get anxiety, although it was hard to find a solution but after that those issues were gone. Few things I need to check again. But I want to take one step at a time.
Am trying to keep things at balance, physical, mental and spiritual.
At starting my appetite was so much reduced, in 2 days I ate only one time, that too a little.
I concentrated on that and now am having a good diet.
It's now mental things which I need to handle.
Spiritual thoughts helped me to find peace.
How about a nice balance of the two! Even if a person has been born with a gene disorder, there are ways to help your body produce serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine. universityhealthnews.com/da...
That's GREAT to hear, you need to be a better YOU. Don't give up if the first, second or 5th therapist doesn't work, there's one out there that will. Let me know how your doing 😉
Yes, it's all about fighting and not loosing hope. Let's see if I have courage to keep things moving.
It's a tough fight, you're worth it
Thanks for believing in me. Thanks a lot. It make me feel good that dispite being a stranger you're helping me a lot. It's so nice to be here. Whenever I feel people are mean now a days, I just go through this site and check out comments of people here. Really it make me believe me that humanity still exists. Thanks a lot for believing in me.
Yes we're strangers, first we're human beings, I do care about my fellow being, we wouldn't have to write to this site if people cared about each other? So keep in touch.... I CARE 😉
nope.... neither of you are alone! i have family that DOES have a clue, but refuses to address the elephant in the room! ( sweep that ugly right under the rug)! UGH
People can't understand the situation untill they have experienced it. This it how it goes. I don't even try to let then know what's happening, ik they won't help and it will be awkward conversation.
Lastnerve your family may not able to understand you, but people here will. Always there for you
thanks ! just disappointing when i bust my a&@ truly.... and my kids are way old enough to be thankful and show it! but they didn’t!! i deleted my ugly ugliness
may lean soon... have 2 hard, sad, ugly days 1st week of Jan.... shame on me for already being doom and gloom!! but i now.... birthday and an anniversary of a death. yikes.
i have a big mouth ( should be talkstoomuch).... you can control and be smart about not wasting your time on deaf ears!...... smart!
1.Heyyyyyy,nooo don't think like that. May be your children are less emotional and they are not good in showing thankfulness?
Idk but there's no point in thinking things which we can't change ( I also overthink( trying to distract).
2. It's okay, ups and downs is part of life. You're next year will be great. I have the guy feeling.
3.i am being smart and repling you,lol. Just don't feel alone at anytime. pm me whenever you want someone to vent out or feel alone.
:)
thank you so much for helping me sort out the mixed up feelings i have tonight. i feel out of control... and i like/need to be in control! Your kind words helped me focus. I think that every caring/kind/understanding person in the world ( ok slight exaggeration) is on this site, and that def includes you!! Thanks Fox for your help! Please lean on me when u need to, I’ll ALWAYS listen! PM me too is fine!
Tired
I'm tired of being tired and tired of trying
Tired of trying
Tired of these feelings 
