Someone there ?

[Chaparra02]

Hi ... I joined this group because well I’m going through a rough patch in life. Not that we all don’t, but in the matter of days I lost a relative to a suicide and my husband cheated on me. So I’ve been off the rails. Last week I tried to cut my wrists, I feel so alone nothing seems to help me. I’m on meds but even on them I have moments that I want to hurt myself just not to feel anything anymore.

[jkl5500]

Would you like to talk about it?

[viiexplorer]

So sorry to hear about your troubles. Do take the time to heal and recover moving along. Do visit this forum for support as well, as many are here to listen.

[PNIAuthor60]

I am so sorry to hear of such devastation in your life. Concerning the suicidal loss, there are some excellent resources to be found at centerforloss.com. The author has actually written several books including a journal on suicidal loss that I found to be quite helpful. I have lost two people dear to me through suicide and it is a horrendous experience.

Self-harm comes to mind when our stresses overwhelm our coping skills. Are you able to afford counselling? Do you attend a church - if so perhaps you could speak with your pastor? Having two such devastating losses so close to each other is especially hard, I hope you can find some support for yourself.

[Chaparra02 in reply to PNIAuthor60]

Thank you I will try to look up those books. I’ve started counseling already, just feel like it might not be enough

[Strebbs]

I'm so sorry!!! I hope you'll just take it one day at a time for now in the face of such overwhelming loss <3 Just get through the day. You see yourself through enough days, one at a time, and that simple self-compassion starts to add up and your days start to brighten again, in time.

I just joined here too, and some of the people are so, so nice. Writing something and receiving some helpful, kind replies almost immediately from people you don't even know feels so weird... I hope you keep posting here and asking questions because you're not so alone after all <3

[Chaparra02 in reply to Strebbs]

I’m trying to take it one day at time, some days is harder than another . I’m just soo confused to when it comes to my relationship with my husband. I really didn’t want to loose my family I say I forgave him but deep down I’m not sure I truly have.

[PNIAuthor60 in reply to Chaparra02]

Within your counselling, it will be important to grieve the betrayal of your husband and the rippling impact it has had on you. Forgiveness takes time as does trust but if both spouses are invested in healing, it can and does work.