It seems so easy for people to give great advice, im horrible at it and it make me feel like im failing as a friend, i should know what to say when someone i care about is going through bad times instead i get anxious and words keep failing me, like seriously why in the hell people want to be friends with someone like me
I disappear when i feel like I'm not ... - Anxiety and Depre...
Danielle, don't do that to yourself. This site is not about what people say but
how much they care. That could be shown in many different ways. Sending
hugs can always warm a person's heart. Sometimes the less said, the more
impact you make on another. I just happen to be long winded, doesn't mean
my comments are any more important than your genuine smile. xx
You have to know...there are no perfect words. If there were, we could all say "Thank you so much. I'm cured."
It is all in the trying. We try to help and that is the worth.
You matter enough for me to try to help.
Not everyone replies every day. We get tired and lay around...but someone else steps in. It is a broken circle of people who take turns stumbling, and the next day reaches down to another person who stumbled.
When I was in primary school, there weren't always A & B grades given. There was also an E...for effort. It meant you tried your best.
I am here.
You are not alone.
Powerful words for someone looking only for hope.
You matter, Danielle. Give what you can.
Nothing is too small.
Warm greetings Danielle 💜
I cannot agree more with everything that’s been said. I too get a loss for words; OFTEN & I sometimes have to really focus closely to what the issue really is. I’m a big hugger & I realize sometimes all I can offer is my attention & my hugs. No one always knows what to do & when to do it. Allow yourself to be human. Be gentle with yourself because no one is perfect & gets “it” right every time. Also, please try to focus on yourself & your needs too, because it’s easy to get overwhelmed by those events & other people’s stuff. Know that you cannot “fix” everything that’s wrong in the world; know that we’re all here just trying hard to do our best & how we approach each other is a process. None of us are perfect !! & Please don’t beat yourself up. That’ll just hurt you. BIG gorilla hugs & all the love little sunflower 🌻 💜.
Don't be so hard on yourself. We don't always know the exact words. Your friends just need to know you are there for them. You don't have to fix everything. You could always tell them exactly that you don't know how to help but you want to. They will fill in the blanks. Keep Trying.
There was a story someone told everyone one of the times I was in a group setting. He said that he felt like his new medicine wasn’t working and had been through most of the antidepressants available. He went in to see his doctor and his doctor seemed completely unable to help. He was frustrated with his physician and wondered if he should switch.... but as he was leaving the office his doctor just briefly put his hand on his shoulder. In that instant he could see that his doctor was just as frustrated that he couldn’t help as he was.
It’s not always about the words. Try not to get too hung up on exactly what to say. Yes, having something great to say is nice but there are countless times in people’s lives where just having someone to listen helps. Someone who seems to understand even if they don’t know what to say.
I hope you’re doing well. 🙂I know we haven’t exactly talked lately.
I completely understand why you feel that way. Personally, at least when I’m around people in real life, I never know what to say to people and I hate that about myself. I’m a bit better online but there are times you just don’t know what to say and that’s ok. You have to try and take comfort in knowing that sometimes, just knowing they’ve been heard by someone who is trying to understand is enough. It may never feel like enough on your end, but I know I appreciate any response from people who seem to be trying to understand and be supportive so that’s what I hope people get from my responses.
Don’t beat yourself up. The fact that you wish you could do or say more says a lot about you as a person. Stay strong okay 😃