What should I do to overcome my social anxiety?

[Axious_girl]

Hello everyone.Im 15 years old and I have bad social anxiety.I got worried about everything a lot..I have got lots of friends and they are very nice..im glad of the fact that I have them...but the problem is that I cant control my anxiety.Whenever I have to speak in front of the whole class, i star sweating, my heart starts beating faster and that feeling in my stomach is awful..I also blush and sweat a lot..

I'm already tired of my social anxiety and want someone to help me..but whenever I tell someone about my problem they say that either I will be okay, or that it doesn't seem a lot..only because I'm talkative??

And I want ti be cured as soon as possible as I don't want to lose this valuable years of my life..

What should I do?

[PureStarlight]

Hi little girl.

I think It's kind of a phobia where you fear to get in limelight infront of a gathering of people, thinking about like their taunts or bullying.And As you are just 15, you must soon tell your parents and then consult a doctor because at this time you will recover fast. I feel that It's just absence of confidence which you doctor will help you to gain by exposure to such events and other things.If you start treatment early, then It's not a big deal sweet heart.

[InquisitiveMind427]

Hello!

I’m probably not the best to tell you what to do about your social anxiety... but I’d like to suggest at least one thing that was suggested to me in grad school that seemed to really help.

Whenever you’re worried about speaking in front of anyone for any reason memorize the first 30 seconds, at most the first minute, by heart. Don’t worry about the whole thing. The beginning is what matters for this. Recite it until you could say it anywhere with any distractions. Don’t worry about memorizing the rest of it by heart, just the beginning.

When you get up there, don’t think about who you’re in front of, if you’ll fail, if you’ll be judged, just recite it once more. Most people will relax by the end of the recitation, putting them more at ease, and allow you to more naturally recall or improvise the rest of your presentation or speech.

I’m not guaranteeing it will work, but I found that it did for me and I really wish someone told me that when I was younger.

[ge99 in reply to InquisitiveMind427]

Good advise lovely stuff.

[Panicatthehorizon]

First, I want to tell you that mental illness isn't something you get cured from. You will struggle with it your whole life. My advice is to find someone you really trust about it.

[ge99]

Hi, I so remember how nervous I felt when I was 15. I left school and had my first job interview and broke down in tears halfway through. I thought I would never get a job or be anyone who was confident or do anything worthwhile. But I am old now lol and I did do lots of things and although I still would say I am an anxious soul, I dont let that stop me. When you go out and you feel nervous, ask questions and listen, people love to talk so let them, you dont have to entertain them, let them entertain you, and you can be nodding and looking calm even if you dont feel it. All my best wishes to you. Oh and do some relaxation you can download it on your phone.