Trying

[MadyH]

Me and my now fiance were trying to have a baby. We were successful but because I am so young we had a very early stage miscarriage at 5 weeks. We are very sad and maybe it was a sign that we werent ready he leaves for Korea in five months it was probably not in our best interest but we are still very sad int his time please send out prayers for me and my what would have been family.

[Eowyn7]

Hey Mady, I'm so sorry for your loss. I wanted to point out that the miscarriage was probably not due to your age. It can happen to people of any age, spontaneously, for no reason at all. If you want to try again just talk to your doctor about when you can start. However it is ok to wait, too. I hope you feel better soon!

[SmilesLots]

Mady, I'm so sorry for your loss. When I had a miscarriage everyone dismissed it as nothing and I was devastated - I grieved terribly. I hope you have support during this time. I'm here if you want to talk.

[Goldendoodle08]

Hello Mady. I am so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage two weeks ago with our first at 10 weeks. I'm 28. I can almost guarantee that it's not due to your age. I have struggled so much with our miscarriage, and there are people on here who have provided support for me. Unfortunately, it is more common than we think, and my doctor told me at my follow up appointment yesterday (I had a D&C) that somewhere between 70-80% of women will have a miscarriage in their lifetime. I have found that the more people that I talk to about it, the more people I learn have also suffered this same heartbreak.

I can honestly say that the only people that truly understand what we are going through are people that have also experienced it. I have a couple of, now former, friends that could not understand why I was so angry that I lost my baby but one of them got to keep hers. She thinks that I wish it was her in my position instead. That couldn't be further from the truth, but she just does not understand what it means to lose a child and the anger that comes with it. People who have been through it know exactly what I mean when I talk about my anger. My advice, if it's something that works for you, is to reach out. Reach out to your support systems, reach out to a counselor, reach out as I can guarantee many women in your life have also experienced this. I am praying for you and your fiance as you grieve the loss of your baby. Do not let anyone tell you that you can only grieve for a certain amount of time, or to just "get over it" because it's happened to others. Everyone that I have talked to has said that while their day to day functions have improved, they will never truly be over their loss. Do what you need to do at this time to take care of yourself. Hugs and prayers to you, Mady.

[rach1402]

I'm sorry to hear you lost your baby 😥 I also suffered a miscarriage at 5 weeks, it was my second pregnancy. Even though I didn't do anything to cause it, I felt guilty that there had been a little life inside of me and not many people had known about it. We didn't want to tell anyone that early on for that very reason, but I somehow felt like a bad mother for keeping my baby a secret and then I lost it and hardly anyone knew it had ever existed.

I had already had one child so I was encouraged by that fact and sure enough I had my other daughter the following year without too much trouble. It was heartbreaking at the time and I often still think of that tiny potential life that was over before it had started, and that was nearly 12 years ago now. I was 21 when I got pregnant with my first baby and everything was fine so I don't think being young has much to do with it. The fact that you got pregnant is a good sign that you will be able to have a baby at some point. It's up to you and your fiance of course but I think it would be ideal for you all to be together when you become a family. That bonding time with your new baby is so precious and you can never get those early days back so it's an extra special time for parents to spend together as a family.

I am not religious so I don't pray but I'm thinking of you and sending good vibes x