My introduction :D

[cricke_t]

So recently, my family and I have been struggling with a lot of things going on, like divorce, and custody of my siblings and I. Its taking a toll on my little siblings, so im looking for healthy ways to cope, and get through this as a family I'm also new here!

[Fishmonster]

Welcome welcome to a home away from home where you can be yourself become bold to say whatever you need to and learn how to deal with every day life. Even struggling with your family you need to take time for yourself

[Strongheartforever]

Keep doing joyful things, hang out with friends, concentrate on school, and talk about it. Every day, things will get a bit easier and some days will be harder than others. My parents divorced when I was 12 and so I know what you’re feeling and it is like a mournful time when that intact family dynamic is gone. It just sucks. Such a complex thing for a kid to deal with. You just want peace. So comfort yourself with healthy distractions like friends, outdoor activities, sports, pets, hobbies, art, school projects, etc. And try to love your parents well cuz they’re also hurting a lot more than you may think and they’re mourning too. There’s a lot of downsides to divorce but it does teach you that change can be freeing and even exciting when you see all the new things that come from it. Take good care of your own mental health and hug your siblings tight.

[fauxartist]

I lived through a couple of my mom's divorces but the one that impacted me most was the one my sister went through when all 4 of her kids were still pretty young. My sister is a good mom and was very aware that the divorce was effecting each kid differently. The oldest went with the dad mostly , the second oldest had a harder time with it and he needed therapy to sort things out, the third was okay but not completely so she did some therapy, and the littlest one didn't care cause now she had two of everything. Both parents had rooms for them all and of course dogs at both houses and the same gal that the kids grew up with worked now at both houses, which were in the same city so they didn't have to change schools....so....they thought that was going to be okay for the most part. Now twelve years later, and they are all still doing good, three have graduated college and one more will soon. So...it just depends on the kid really. The most important thing was to not let them think it was their fault. A lot of kids think they did something wrong and that's why the parents divorced. They need to feel secure about their living situation. Some kids also get thrown into the mix of parents bad mouthing each other, and that's when kids get angry and confused because they don't want to be disloyal to either parent....and mostly it's important to let them know that this divorce is between the parents. And that everything is going to be okay....leave the kids out of it, and don't bad mouth the other parent to the kids.

[momonthego2019]

Hope all is going well. You've received some good advice here already. Keep in mind some of the things that have already been mentioned (such as the divorce is about the parents not the kids). Your younger siblings may have a harder time adjusting to things but hopefully you all will lean on each other for support. Remind them and yourself that mom and dad still love you and will be there for you but the dynamics of the family are going to be a little different. This process is hard and some days will be better than others. Thank you for joing this group. We are here for you.