How to stop my mind from always telling me I'm useless?

[SapphireBlue419]

It's a rough day. I have a lot of friends that I know love me but that love I feel always hits a wall when I'm told that it's there for me. My mind doesn't understand why anyone would. It also really likes to kick me down very hard when something brings me down. It likes to tell me how much of a waste of space I am when things go wrong; when I see that I'm less of a person than others are. This low will pass but I'm so tired of my mind leaving me this bruised. Doing things I love are so pointless in these lows. How can I cope?

[Hidden]

depression is basically being in an abusive relationship with yourself. it keeps telling you you’re worthless and incompetent but it’s not true. I’m not saying i have all the answers but ignoring your depression and telling yourself that you are good enough and worth love is a big step in getting better. you don’t need a god or religion to realize you matter, you just gotta keep telling yourself you’re important and do one thing you use to be more passionate about everyday (example- writing in a journal, drawing, dancing, etc.)

[sarengeti in reply to Hidden]

Great suggestions. Love them.

[Hidden]

Hi SapphireBlue419! I’ve suffered with depression for over 12 years. After trying many avenues to cope, I always return to podcasts. There are lots to choose from. There are interviews by people from all walks of life that suffer from depression and what they do to cope. There are some that include funny stories as well. Hopefully you will give this option a try. I’m glad I did. 🙂

[SapphireBlue419 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much! I can see how this is helpful and I'll make sure to try them

[rach1402]

I used to be like that, my therapist told me I was continuing the script of my mother's narcissistic abuse after I cut her out of my life. Have you suffered emotional abuse in the past? Don't feel obliged to answer if that's too personal for you but it may be worth looking into as a possible cause of your troubles. I hope you get to the bottom of it so you can start to get the help you need x

[SapphireBlue419 in reply to rach1402]

That's the thing... I don't particularly have abuse in my past. It's something that sprung up and made sure to stay with me...

[rach1402 in reply to SapphireBlue419]

People give themselves a hard time for all sorts of reasons, chemical imbalance, societal pressures to be perfect and have it all, the list goes on. In my case, I found out I have ADHD as an adult when it's harder to treat, always beating myself up for forgetting things, speaking out of turn, inability to manage my emotions and generally being disorganised. When you grow up like that it's difficult to change your mindset but when it comes on suddenly with no obvious cause it's tricky to put your finger on it. It's always easier when you understand why you're having a hard time, it's probably one for the professionals to be honest but we're always here for you if you need someone to talk to x