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Changing your thinking


I know it’s hard but there are times when we all need to change the way we think about ourselves. It’s easy to dwell on things we perceive as mistakes, regrets, failures and flaws.

But there are people out there who can listen to your story and honestly say they’re amazed at how strong you are and how far you’ve come.

It is easy to view what we do every day as normal. As nothing worth noting or taking pride in, and we need to change that.

I told a coworker a couple months ago I hated myself and always have. She looked at me with the most shocked expression on her face and just said one word...


To the outside world I am a loving father and an impossibly hard working and intelligent man. I am polite, kind and well-liked by nearly everyone in my life.

Her genuine shock made me wonder why I need other people to tell me these things about myself. Why can’t I take pride in what I do and love myself? Why is it that everyone else thinks my degree is an accomplishment and I view it as an unwanted financial burden that has brought me nothing but misery?

I have been trying something new. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. I have made a mental list of things that make me truly happy or proud. Things that I know a normal person would consider impressive or that I can take pride in knowing I’m doing something right.

My daughter is my favorite. She loves me so much and I genuinely don’t believe I deserve it... but when I think about how happy she is to see me I know I’m doing something right.

So the next time you find your mind trying to tear yourself down think of something you love. A picture you drew, something you wrote, a time you made a friend or family member smile. Take pride in your accomplishments and the positive effects you have on those around you.

We are all broken or we wouldn’t be here, but broken can be fixed. Our hardships make us empathetic and loving. We are good people. We are all beautiful. We all deserve to be loved.

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That’s a beautiful post you’ve made today, dear friend! You are so right!!!! I am so happy that you’ve decided to come back to this forum. All of us could use this beautiful advice. I love you!!!! Lots of hugs!!! 💕

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It’s good to be back 🙂. I’ll try and continue posting more positive than negative things but you know how messed up things are for me. I hope it helps someone. Love you to! 😃

Great post. I love that poem.


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