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My best friend just started college and I'm struggling with the adjustment. We don't live near each other so it isn't the distance that I'm struggling with. I feel like I can't relate to anything going on in her life right now because I'm still a junior in high school. The biggest issue I've been having is anxiety every time she talks about her going to parties or drinking. I don't typically have an issue with alcohol or partying because I drink socially and used to party all the time. I'm not sure why it happens but every time she snapchats me or texts me to tell me that she's drinking I get hit with almost panic attack inducing anxiety. I don't know how to deal with this because she usually texts me when she's drinking to let me know in case anything happens to her. I don't want to take that option away from her but I kind of feel like I'm going to die every time she mentions it. I just need advice from people who don't know me and my past with parties and alcohol.

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It sounds like you really care for your friend. And maybe when you were partying you had some bad experiences that you want to protect her from? Or maybe your scared she will find a new bff out having fun without you? Whatever the case I would try to talk to her about it. Maybe you two can figure it out together. But in the mean time try to do whatever you can to calm and relax yourself. Good luck with your friend!

Well, it's common for friends to have differences in their lives as they mature. As you said you are still in HS. News flash: I attended college a million years ago-and it's hard work. I would ask your friend to just talk about what she is studying or some of the people she is meeting so she just doesn't talk about drinking.

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