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It’s all pointless.

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It doesn’t matter how hard you love people, they just hurt you anyway.

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Agora1

Hi Lover14, that is too generalized a statement. Not all people who open their heart to another are hurt. Living in that rationalization can only make you a lonely person afraid to believe in another. I've known people who have followed that thinking. Maybe it was just meant to be for that person but they shut down and never gave themselves a chance.

It sounds like you have been hurt very bad and most recently. We are here to listen if you need a caring ear. Maybe we can soften the hurt and anger you feel by letting you know you aren't alone in having gone through this deceit. xx

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Lover14 in reply toAgora1

Idk. It’s hard to ignore the proof that no one wants you in their life.

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Stilltrying_ in reply toLover14

This sounds like a temporary feeling you have. You will feel better soon xxx

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Lover14 in reply toStilltrying_

It’s not. I feel it all the time. People have been walking out of my life for the past ten years. I’m tired of letting people in just to watch them walk out. Apparently, I’m not worth anything to anyone.

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Agora1 in reply toLover14

How can you say "no one". In this big wide world you don't think that there are many who would want you in their life? It's about time and place, not distance. If it's meant to be it will happen. You really were hurt bad and I'm so sorry. We are here for you as a group or private message. It's not good for your emotional health to be this bitter. xx

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Lover14 in reply toAgora1

I am bitter.

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Agora1 in reply toLover14

I hear it, I feel it in every word of your post.

I'm glad you have come to this site. This is a safe place to share your emotions

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TheEraOfSarah in reply toLover14

Pain is a part of life and unfortunately some people are going to let you down at some point. But not everyone forever. You just need to find the right people to love. Ones that love you back. It’s always a risk that you’ll get hurt, but it sounds like you are hurting anyway...so you might as well keep trying! What have you got to lose? Eventually things will get better.

It’s okay to feel bad from time to time. Focus on that one thing that makes you forget about everything else. Don’t worry what people think or feel about you. It’s not important when you are focusing on your thing.

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Why strive for all the wonderful things in life, if I don’t have people to share it with? Like I said, POINTLESS!

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You don’t have people to share it with right now. I bet if you reimagined the life you want you will attract a whole new group of people in your life that will appreciate you the way you deserve it. The universe is funny like that. I promise you have to go for it. You won’t be disappointed. I dare you. 🙏🏼

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I agree with you Superstar

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Lover14 in reply to

I know who I am and I project myself the way I want people to see me. I do not question my integrity or my self worth. I like who I am, it’s others who don’t.

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People who are comfortable within don’t concern their energy with the people who don’t appreciate us. Because we know what we’re worth. It’s okay to be hurt by people, but when it hurts to a point that it consumes us then we are to blame ourselves. Change happens within. You have more control than you believe you do. Take control and never let it go.

Lover, you have gusto, I'll give you that!

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crowningglory19

Yes, love is risky and leaves you vulnerable, but would you rather live life completely alone and unloved? Choose wisely who you let it, but keep your heart soft and open to love. The road in life is long and lonely if not shared with a loved one, but miserable if love is to an uncaring, abusive person, guard your heart but don't harden it completely. join groups of your interest or passion and you will find like minded and like-hearted people. Many churches have great single groups that go out together for fun and you can meet friends if nothing else. <3

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