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[Sophhhh]

Does anyone have any advice for feeling less like your being watched and stared down by everyone around you including people in their cars and stuff because I have anxiety about that like everytime I leave my house and it makes me just so stressed out and of course anxious af

[Sillysausage234]

Are you physically attractive,

[Sophhhh in reply to Sillysausage234]

Well I’ve been told that yes like I don’t wanna sound Conceded, but I’m 5’11” and have blonde hair and blue eyes and have just lost a bunch of weight. So like I’m aware I have some attractive qualities or whatever, but it’s weird because I am anxious about being aware about my attractiveness and anxious about other people’s awareness of it.

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Sophhhh]

Embrace being admired,it’s natural,strutt your stuff hold your head high and smile ☝️🙂🎧🎼🎸🎹🥁best wishes

[Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234]

Yes, enjoy it while you have it! Aging occurs sooner rather than later! It’s fun!

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden]

You can still strutt that stuff Susan 💃☝️🙂☀️🧘🏻‍♂️🎧🎶🎵

[Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234]

Haha! ☀️

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I enjoy being tall...

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden]

And good for you too 🌞🍀

[kenster1]

don't worry im with you on that one.its been happening to me for the last few weeks.

[kenster1 in reply to kenster1]

its hard but I think it feels worse if you keep your head down all the time like I do.its better though to keep your head up with a positive stride.try and not focus on anyone else better to focus on yourself.

[hypercat54]

You say stared down so I guess you don't think it's because you are attractive? Just ask yourself why you are important enough for strangers to bother with you? I assure you they are much more likely to be worrying about themselves and their own lives to be concerned with you. Just keep telling yourself that.

If they really are staring at you then ask yourself are you acting strangely? People will stare if you are, so act like normal and never draw attention to yourself like this. Not saying you do but just in case you are. x

[gerg in reply to hypercat54]

I like to check if I look at or notice others. I find that I may see them, but I am not judging them. This is normal and I figure that it is what is going on around me.

I’m not that important either.

[hypercat54 in reply to gerg]

You are to us gerg xx

[Hidden]

I once asked a lady am I in the way while I was bagging groceries for my mom. She was staring at me. She went on to accuse me of stealing a coupon she claimed she lost in the bagging area. I laughed at her which angered her more and then stated my case. She wasn’t hearing it and got the manger she wanted him to look at the security footage. The manager told her to stop bothering his customers and leave. Do I look like someone who cares about coupons?

[Sophhhh in reply to Hidden]

Idk how that was supposed to relate to what I said but alright lmao

[Hidden in reply to Sophhhh]

You just never know what people are thinking when they are staring at you. It usually has nothing to do with us.

[Sophhhh in reply to Hidden]

Ohhh gotcha

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden]

Coupons is where it’s at ☝️🙂

[Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234]

I didn’t know people take them so seriously. The woman was genuinely convinced I stole her two dollar Purdue chicken coupon. All I wanted to do was bag the groceries. I would never steal anyone’s coupons.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Lol!!!

[Allaznreject]

its a sign of flattery. If enough creeps stare at you, then you are doing something right in life!

[hypercat54]

I remember doing the staring at a woman once who deliberately pushed in front of me in a bus queue. I was in a bit of an evil mood so determined she wasn't getting on before me so pushed past her. In the process I accidentally stepped on her foot. She wasn't happy so I just said she shouldn't push in front then!

She then said with a plummy voice 'You must lead a sad life'. I burst out laughing coz it is true I do The look on her face was a picture! x

[Sillysausage234 in reply to hypercat54]

Hi bev I’m sure stamping on her foot was no accident 😊

[LovelySnow]

I also think that it can take time and practice to not be bothered by stares. It helped me to remember that, like Here_am_I said, you really don't know why people are staring. You just don't. It also helped me to sometimes just say a friendly hello if you pass by them: repay potential meanness with kindness.

[Sophhhh in reply to LovelySnow]

I don’t ever feel like people are staring at me in a negative way I just feel like their staring at me and that’s just what makes me crawl with anxiety like just peoples eyes on me idk I don’t understand my own fear a whole lot I think it is some time of paranoia and I have had a couple of traumatic experiences with not so great people so maybe it’s just like I think everyone is gonna hurt me in some way or attack me and I associate that with them just simply looking at me

[LovelySnow in reply to Sophhhh]

Ohhh, I see. That is different than what I was thinking.

I'm so sorry. To feel that way is terrible. Have you talked to anyone else about how you feel?

[Sophhhh in reply to LovelySnow]

No not the staring thing no just kinda have kept it in my mind just like oh this is just a me thing probably and try to ignore that I feel that way

[LovelySnow in reply to Sophhhh]

It could be worth talking about. If you often feel anxious when others stare and it's something that affects your everyday - that seems important. Especially if you've been hurt before - maybe that's what's causing it. I obviously don't know if it is, but maybe it could help to talk about it with someone you trust - a counselor maybe.

[LovelySnow in reply to Sophhhh]

I wasn't trying to discourage you from posting and getting support here, of course! I hope you know that. We can't replace a counselor, but we can listen, offer experiences and - we care!! Take care of yourself.

[Agora1 in reply to LovelySnow]

LovelySnow, that's what I've learned to do as well. A polite "hello" or a "smile" will at least bring down some of our anxiety. It's unreal how often this is done. xx

[Hidden]

It kind of sounds like paranoia? I'm not sure. I used to think people were staring at me and judging me. I kind of gotten over it as I've gotten older. I'd rather be focused on myself than what others are possibly doing/saying. I know it sounds narcissistic, but it's what helps me.

[Hidden]

I have found myself feeling very paranoid at times if someone is staring. I am thinking I look strange or have a blob of chocolate on my face. As I’ve gotten older it’s not as bad but I still feel that way sometimes. My daughter kinda helps me sometimes cause she is so pretty but will go to the store with pjs and house shoes cause she’s just so “over it”. Lol. She has a little baby so her priorities are quite different now.