Panicking

[Tripster]

So yesterday I had no choice but to tell my dad that I had depression and anxiety (it was diagnosed yesterday secretly). I just woke up and I cannot believe I told him that! Why would I tell him that? I don’t like talking about my feelings because I panic. Ugh I don’t want to leave my bed.

[Hidden]

Go ahead a leave the bed....talk about your feelings to your family.....I'm not you so I don't know why talking about your feelings to them causes panic....but I'm pretty sure; the more you do the less anxious you'll be with doing it....it can only help....and so can they.

Maybe getting some professional help would be good...if you can get some help with that...and not freak out because you have to expose yourself to someone else.

That's what they're there for. And that's what your family's there for.

Try putting down the mask and gradually see what happens....you may be surprised.

[Hidden]

Secrets can keep us sick Tripster! I don’t like a lot of things, but find them necessary in life. There’s nothing to panic about, it is what it is! Look towards acceptance...wishing you peace of mind 🌷🌞🌷

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Oh, let go of the drama...it just magnifies things and causes added anxiety...

[Marshall64]

Tipster, I'm a father of a preteen and if she had depression and anxiety I would want to know about it. It would suck knowing she had it but i would be glad that she shared that with me. Don't freak out about it, it is a good start. Parents want to know what is going on. If your behavior has been different, now they will know why and will be able to help you.

[Tripster in reply to Marshall64]

Thank you that helped a lot

[rach1402 in reply to Tripster]

I'm also a parent and I agree with that advice. How did you dad react?

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Tripster,

I think it is good that it's out in the open. Secrets can eat away at us and make things worse.

I wouldn't be surprised if he already suspected it.

[Tripster in reply to Hidden]

He hadn’t suspected it. I haven’t told him that I’ve felt like this for 14 years. I keep a lot of secrets from them.

[Hidden in reply to Tripster]

You are very much like me. My mom didn't suspect a thing. Sometimes she laughed at my behavior. Be thankful that didn't happen to you.

[fauxartist]

it seems a lot of younger people here don't want to let their parents know they are suffering.... for various reasons.... it's just so sad to me why that is... I would want to know so I could help my kid.... I know the suffering needlessly I went through for most of my life and I wouldn't wish that on anyone...especially my kid.

I hope your father is there for you with this....

[rach1402]

It's difficult to admit that everything's not ok in a world that demands perfection but it's your parents' job to accept you and help you in any way they can. If you don't get the support you need from them, the best thing you can do is go and talk to your school counsellor. Hopefully being diagnosed at an early age will mean that you can grow up with helpful strategies that will help you cope during difficult times in your life. Be strong and get the help you need, good luck x

[Tripster in reply to rach1402]

I’m not in school

[rach1402 in reply to Tripster]

Oops sorry about that 😬 someone mentioned being the parent of a pre teen and someone else referred to a lot of young people on here being too afraid to talk to their parents about those kinds of issues. I think I just got an image in my mind and it was wrong! I didn't mean to cause offence x

[Hidden in reply to rach1402]

I don't think she was meaning anything more than she's not in school... any more...

I'm sure she wasn't offended @ your assumption.

[Tripster in reply to rach1402]

I was not offended I’m actually 19, but I’m currently not in college.

[Marshall64 in reply to Tripster]

So how are things with your dad?

[Tripster in reply to Marshall64]

He’s really awkward around me now. He once said how he didn’t understand why I’m like this. My mom on the other hand is pretty chill about it.

[Marshall64 in reply to Tripster]

He might not know what to say. I still think you did the right thing by telling him. At least he knows what is going on with you.

[rach1402 in reply to Tripster]

Ha ha I'm British 😂 I had to try really hard not to apologise for apologising then 🤣 oh no I'm such a cliché 😆

[pink318]

Hi Tripster,

How are you today?

It’s good that you talked to your Dad about your feelings. I’m also a parent and I want to know what’s going on with my child.

You are not alone, we are here for you. Take care and keep us posted. You are in my prayers.