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Hello I am new to this group. Hoping to get some advice from people who are suffering from childhood trauma (mental,sexual,physical) abuse. And how to overcome this

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Childhood trauma is the worst...it sets you up on a default bad path for the rest of your life...I’m here if you ever want to talk 😞

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Thank you.

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I can relate to your childhood trauma except for the sexual abuse. The physical abuse was easy compared to the emotional/verbal abuse...so hard to shake that sh** off! We were programmed for negative self-talk and self-loathing. What a crock! It has taken me many years to handle this battle and it tends to re-surface every single time I get depressed, like clockwork. I logically know that those words aren’t true today as I have proven that fact many times over, so why let them control me? They’re lies. I don’t have to believe it. I try to let that sh**go and stay out of the past. It can’t be changed. Those words have caused me so much pain over the years and I’m sick to death of it! I know the truth, who I really am, and I’m doing my best to let dead dogs lie. Wishing you peace of mind, my friend! 🌞

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Thank you. Yes negative self talk is so harmful. But it is all I know. It’s hard to look in the mirror and find anything positive about myself. I’m sure there is good in me, because people tell me there is, BUT I do not see it. I hate everything about myself.

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Oh being abused as a child is horrible, been there, done that. Somehow I have been able to forgive the people who abused me although it's left some scars on me. I'm here for you, cheering you on! Love, peace, joy, light & hugs!!!

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Thank you. That is probably the hardest part is forgiving them. 3 male family members. Even though I have had no contact with any of them in 30+ yrs I still carry the resentments. I have trust issues and would like to be in a relationship some day but do not feel I deserve one. Enjoy your day

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I hear what you're saying, one of mine was my brother, he lives behind me but you know what....we won't have to answer for that 1 one day, isn't that a good feeling to know that? I have trust issues my own self, that's okay too, we can work on that one, right? You deserve to be in a relationship, don't sell yourself short. Start feeding positive in your brain, it does help.I'm here for you! Love, peace, joy, light & hugs!!!

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Thank you again. It’s nice to hear that we can move on. Today is the first day in about 3 weeks that I did not wake up in a total meltdown or had any Suicidal thoughts. I still can’t look in the mirror and be happy with what I see but hopefully someday

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Well sounds like you had a good start to your day, that's wonderful, I'm very happy for you! Ya know it's not about the outside but our inside, the heart! I'm here for you! Have a beautiful day! Love, peace, joy, light & hugs!!

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Yes I have a very big heart according to most people. But I feel it’s also Full of scar tissue and calloused. This Sunday I’m gonna start going back to church thank you for all your support and kind words

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Yes I think a lot of us on here have big hearts, I know I do. Maybe it's time to let go of the past? I have and have been through an awful lot in my life, yet to move forward it helps to let go. Love, peace, joy, light & hugs!!!

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Yes I have a very big heart according to most people. But I feel it’s also Full of scar tissue and calloused. This Sunday I’m gonna start going back to church thank you for all your support and kind words

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Offroadjeep- At five I suffered sexual abuse...I proceeded to wish for death till I was 30 years old. I held everything in and never let anyone know what I was going through....this didn’t help. When I decided to get help the mending process started. I will always be affected by the trauma but I have learned to not allow it to rule me. I gave to much power to my offender. Have you sought a good counselor, pastor or mentor to help you work through what you have been through? I know it is hard but it is so worth the time to begin the healing process. I know of a really good book too....its Mending the Soul by Steven Tracy. Praying for you - Rachel

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Thank you Rachel. I have an appointment with a counselor on September 13. I will check into the book thank you so much have a blessed day

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All such great advice. You should also see a Trauma Therapist or join a trauma support group. There’s also outpatient group therapy for trauma. I’m sorry you endured so much. We’re definitely all here for you 💜

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Thank you. I have never heard of a trauma therapist but I will definitely check into that have a blessed day

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Yes definitely do. My sister looked into it for me. They specialize solely in trauma.

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I will for sure 💕

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Thank you Rachel. I have an appointment with a counselor on September 13. I will check into the book thank you so much have a blessed day

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Thank you. I have never heard of a trauma therapist but I will definitely check into that have a blessed day

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Has anybody on here ever tried to communicate with the DR. Phil show. I myself feel that this might be my last cry for help. My depression is at its highest and it is Debilitating me I’m so lost and hopeless

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Has anybody on here ever tried to communicate with the DR. Phil show. I myself feel that this might be my last cry for help. My depression is at its highest and it is Debilitating me I’m so lost and hopeless

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Does anybody know of any anxiety depression groups that I can attend in San Diego California that are free of charge

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Does anybody know of any anxiety depression groups that I can attend in San Diego California that are free of charge

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I wish there was a quick fix, but if there is I haven't found it. What I have learned is it takes courage to face the past, to move from victim to overcomer. For me it took a combination of some medication and counseling. And it took more than one round. But each time the meds were milder, the counseling fewer sessions. I learned coping skills and how to take care of myself mentally, to take breaks and speak up for myself when I start feeling overwhelmed. I encourage you to look into a treatment plan and prayers for strength, hope, courage and wisdom to pursue better mental health.

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Thank you. I appreciate your response and your advice. Have a blessed day

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