What’s wrong with me?

[jpsmith]

I just wish I could figure out what’s wrong with me. I feel lonely and sad all the time but fear reaching out to people because I feel they won’t understand. I just can’t get out of this funk I’m in. Nothing I do seems to help and I don’t feel up to doing much.

[vanessi]

What's the reason for feeling like that?

[gerg]

Have you tried figuring out what is right with you? Perception becomes reality, and if you only look at the negative it is all that you will find. It doesn’t take something fantastic to start the process, little things are just fine. Are you funny, can you draw? Keep looking, you may be amazed at what a good person you are.

There will be plenty of time later to revisit what could be wrong with you.

[Hidden in reply to gerg]

This is amazing and so true 💜

[Hidden]

I've been asking myself the same question my whole life. What's wrong with me, why do I have to feel like this, why hanging out with others can feel so scary and so complicated?

I read your posts and if it means anything, I really understand how you feel. If you need a friend, you can talk to me. Maybe we can help each other out. At least, you don't have to be afraid that I won't understand. ☺️ I wish you well.

[hopeful0907]

jpsmith, I understand that feeling. I felt it for years on and off. There were times things were so good in my life but I still felt sad and alone even with people who loved me were all around and wonderful. Depression does not care if you have a good life or a terrible one, it will bring you down. Have you spoken with your doctor about this? You may have some health reasons behind this. I know mine was related to health. Don't be ashamed, millions of people go through the very things you are feeling and the best way to get better is to reach out to someone. Please don't try and fight this alone, there are people who can and will help. Let me know if you want to reach out to some counselors, I have had to speak with one from time to time. It helps to know I am not alone when I battle depression. Hang in there, not every day will be this way.

[Agora1]

Hi jpsmith, being in a funk perpetuates itself unless we break that cycle just as it is with the fear cycle and anxiety. As each day repeats itself, a negative pattern is set in the brain. It's very easy to feel alone and sad with mental illness. Others do not understand this invisible disease. The fact that nothing works is a sign that you have to now take control of your life and make some changes. Although with depression, medication is usually warranted since it's more likely from a chemical imbalance however, meds are not the only answer but in time may be able to motivate you some.

We all have some hidden talents that we can explore. Sometimes we need a structured way of getting out of ourselves. A night class at a college or park district that can offer you a new insight and accomplishment. Volunteering during the day is always a way of not feeling so alone, being productive and relieving the loneliness of others less fortunate.

It might be better not to reach out to people about your depression. Break that cycle and fit into society with no labels attached to yourself. I hope you start out with some professional therapy that can help guide you in the right direction, going forward and not staying stuck. Good luck .