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One More Thing

I've had quite a few instances of sexual abuse in my past. I think I'm doing okay with it but I've really never considered telling anyone the details of it until recently. I have a very good friend that I want to open up to but I'm terrified of what his response will be. I don't want him to look at me differently or treat me differently. But it's gotten to the point where the worst part of what has happened to me is the fact that myself and the person responsible for it are the only ones who know that it happened. I think this is the cause of my increased anxiety this last week but I don't know what to do about it.

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Have you received any treatment for this trauma before?

I have not. Usually the thought of saying it out loud makes me queasy. I know I need to but it's hard

Yeah I can’t imagine how hard it must be. I don’t have any experience with that so I don’t want to give bad advice.

It’s amazing what can happen when you tell your story to another human being.

I am sorry... this is a horrible thing to have to experience. I know it's scary to talk about... very proud of the courage you have. Please talk to a trusted person... you don't have to go through this alone. Yes, it's diffcult to talk about, but remember you did nothing wrong. Here for you 💛

I had similar experiences. I also could not face telling anyone, but I was still young and needed help, so I wrote it all down in a letter to my older sisters (who had left home). They were amazing and I wished I had told them everything before. Writing it all down made it so much easier than trying to say the words. Over the years I have learned to come to terms with everything in my past. I never thought I would be able to say that, but I have a daughter of my own now and I am determined not to let my past experiences ruin her life. I want her to grow up strong and confident. Somehow having her made it easier to move past all the negative experiences. I hope you have someone you can confide in and that you get the help you need. All the best...

Thanks! I actually did finally write everything down just a couple days ago. It helped a lot!

Glad to hear that. I know it's hard right now, but you will be fine.xx