Suffering from depression

[Portia21]

Hi everyone. I am a new member here. I am depressed. I lost my mother last year n I haven't been able to deal with it. She was my only friend n now I feel so lost without her. I try my best to remain strong n pretend to be ok in front of people but I cry myself to sleep everyday.

[Hidden]

I’m so sorry, my heart is sad for you. Have you had any grief counseling? There is a program called GriefShare that is through many churches and is very good. Being in community with those who are grieving is the best way to heal.

[cruin]

I'm so sorry to hear you lost your mom. If you aren't already seeing a grief counselor I think it would be a good idea. Grieving is a process. There are some really caring people in this community. Please continue to come back. ♥️

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You could be me 29 years ago. You are still mourning and don't allow anyone tell you can't be. It took me ten long years to let go of my my loving mother, I was 6 weeks away from giving birth to my 3rd child & she was going to be in the room with us. I didn't want to live any longer, I had no idea where you bought Easter Egg Dye, I was so lost. Never thought I would make it, went through 2 ppd after her loss. I'm telling you , I'm proof that you will make it. It's scary & very lonely. You just need time to heal. Be kind & gentle with yourself during this difficult, you sure deserve it! I'm here for you. Love, hugs and most important may peace be with you. Love & hugs!

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I know exactly how you feel. I lost my Mother in 2005 and still miss her like mad everyday!!! Buried my 'beloved' Sister the end of last year, we were 'SO' very, very, close and feel absolutely lost without her. On top of that, my best friend died at the beginning of this year. I have been offered 'Bereavement Counseling' by my GP and just waiting to hear from them now. I understand completely where you're coming from about 'putting a brave face on for People' but it's just really hard as well. Try and look after yourself the best you can though.

[fauxartist]

I'm very sorry for your loss....and it's so very sad. I can tell you I got some help in therapy, and group therapy in dealing with grief and loss, and learning to let go. It takes what ever time it takes to get past the sadness and shock....but eventually you will remember more of only the good stuff and not have so much pain when you think of her....she'll always be with you.

[Hidden]

Hi Portia21,

Welcome! I know how you feel...I lost my sister last December and it’s so tough. My parents have already passed. You will reach a level of acceptance when you’re ready. I know that my sister is so much better off now and happier, so I have a certain peace about it. You’ll get there!! 🌷🙃🌷

[MrZee]

Dear Portia21,

You’re in the midst of grieving the loss of your mother and that’s very real. The period of grief lasts different lengths for each person.

You also lost a dear friend. So that’s a double loss.

There are grief groups out there that specialize for those who have lost a loved one. Years ago my Mother’s 2nd husband (the love of her life) instantly died from a heart attack. She was devastated. She joined a grief group and it worked wonders.

By the way, I lost my Mother over a year ago. I still can’t believe she’s gone. She was a big influence in my life. I’m still grieving the loss.

So cry all you want and allow yourself to grieve. It gets a teeny bit better as the days go by.

Best,

MZ