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Feeling very low lately, my boyfriend doesn't understand my anxiety and says its something I just "need to get over". I have felt alone and feel like he should be the one I'm comfortable talking too. Having lost my best friend to suicide around this time 3 years ago, I'm feeling extra anxious and have a lot of triggers.

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I am so sorry. Sometimes, it is hard for normal people to understand what we are going through. I didn't understand anxiety and depression myself until I had it and it is truly terrifying. I suggest explaining to him with a little more detail and also ask him to respect your condition. I lost a good friend to suicide a couple of weeks ago too and it's truly sad. I hope you stay strong and make it through this. Best of luck and wishes to you xoxo.

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nixster57 in reply to zevietnameseguy98

Thank you so much for your kind words. I am very sorry for your loss. Hugs and good wishes to you! <3 stay strong

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Lakewolf

I’ve lost 13 people to heart attacks & suicide since 2015, when the opioid nonsense began.

One of my best friends just found out she has advanced stage colon cancer.

Sometimes I want to hide within myself to get away from the pain... but I’m a fighter, & WILL NOT desert my friends.

I truly hope this helps. If you need to talk, message me.

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Robinrenae

I'm sorry you're having a difficult time right now. Try to be kind to yourself. Maybe you should show your boyfriend some of the posts on here so he can see how anxiety affects lots of other people not just yourself. Hopefully that will help him to understand better. If you see a therapist it would be a good idea for him to go with you to an appointment, she could explain anxiety to him...If you'd to comfortable with that.

Love and light to you 🌹

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fauxartist

ask your boyfriend if you kicked him in the balls would he just get over it..... That is so tiresome to hear that same dismissive rhetoric when your really suffering and you tell someone you think would be there for you so you can have some comfort....I'm sorry you lost your best friend and the pain is obviously still with you. People who don't want to know about our issues, don't care, or don't understand them often dismiss us and it hurts. So now your here sharing with people who won't do that, we understand what your going through, and your not alone. Have you been in therapy, or are you on any medication. What have you been able to do for yourself so far to help with this....

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alexah512

I’m so sorry to hear that. I would definitely try to explain to him specifically what triggers your anxiety. As your partner he should be someone you confine in but he is not doing so. Try surrounding yourself by people who hear you out & want to help. I hope everything gets better in time

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shadow68

I had to explain to my partner about what was going on with me and i showed him some of the things i was sad about and mad and hurt about and that I can't just freaking get over it. and guess what, were still together. sometimes it takes someone seeing the pain thats inside our heads and if they then they never will. a buddy of mine told me one time a lame duck will drown. and the same goes for people that don't care about us. but so far from what i've seen here you do care about you and like me you have to be willing to confront your anxiety with your dude or it'll destroy you even further. theres a song called what its like and thats the best way to explain my life to my partner. sometimes it takes a song. (and he hates R&R but he said they nailed it about me) just sayn

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