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How can you get over someone’s death ? I lost my grandma March 9th, my house and two chihuahuas 3 months later. Every day I feel like I’m getting worse I no longer have my best friends here for me anymore.

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It is truly hard to get over someone's death and I feel your pain. I lost my cousin to a stroke and he was my best mate :). Over the last 3 years, I have also lost my grand-dad and my uncle. It was very painful but eventually, I made it through. You just have to let all your feelings out and talk to a lot of people about it. One day you will feel much better, I am sure with you about that. I am sure your grandma would want you to be happy. We are here for you and you are never alone in this fight. I am so sorry for your lost. Stay strong, stay tough and stay safe, my friend. Good luck :).

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She would want me to be happy, she told all of us before she passed that she didn’t want us to cry except for one time and that’s it but I’ve cried more then I could count

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Hi there. Total cliche but it takes time. I lost my partner of 15 years may2017 then 2 months after that my beautiful loyal little dog.

At first nothing helps. You try to listen to some music and the lyrics will trigger memories, or you cant go out cos u have to explain to everyone you meet.

So many other examples and that feeling like a kick in the stomach when it hits u like ton of bricks all over again......

All i can say is that its true. Grief is a process and i promise that eventually u will remember your grandma with a smile and not tears.

Thinking of you

Love and peace

Shadow

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Yes that’s exactly how it feels, everyday it hits me like a ton of bricks. But see my house got struck by lighting and I lost everything , what made it worse they put it on the news.

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Omg that is absolutely horrible...... my thoughts are with you.

Shadow

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Hi the answer is you never get over all this you just learn to live with it and move on. It has only been a few months all this happened so give yourself time to adapt and to start healing.

Tragedies and life events are very stressful so you need to allow yourself to feel the emotions and to look after yourself for as long as you need to. We are not computers but thinking living human beings who suffer pain, tragedies, and other awful things but we also have a great capacity for happiness and self fulfillment too. x

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I agree with hypercat 100%..be kind & gentle with yourself during this painful time you are dealing with. I understand how you feel , my mom was my best friend , I lost her 29 years ago, it took me a very long time to accept it. Love & Hugs!!!

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My mum was very far from my best friend but I still miss her. She died 5 years ago now. x

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Oh I'm sorry for that, makes me really feel for you pal. That must of really been hard for you, moms should always be there for their kids, I'm so grateful for her. Now my dad never could be bothered after they divorced, I was 8 & it left deep scars on me. I sure hope you have a beautiful day! Love & Hugs!!!

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Thing is I had to move in with my mom and her husband in a whole different state, I left behind My friends, sister and work. So I don’t have any friends here or a job and I’m not a person to go out and socialize. Every time I have to go to the grocery store I have panic attacks. And sometimes I’ll have major mood swings it’s Exhausting from being ok to being pissed off for no reason at all

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I have social anxiety ...no likey to go to stores alone, although I do force myself & even make conversation with people in the stores, then I leave & I know I did it & focus on the good time I did have. I wish for you peace my friend. XXX

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Loss is different for everyone. It is not a quick process, but one that takes time to heal from. I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you are able to find some positives to hold onto during the healing process. Time helps. Prayer helps, if you pray.

Praying for you!

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