Still hooked on my ex

[ScottieStyles]

It's been over a year since we split, everytime I think I have got her out my system, I start to think about her again, still very much in love with her, it's killing me, feel like crying 😢 today,

[thatjuanguy]

I hope it gets better for you been much longer for me and she’s still there way too often.

[Hidden]

Awww I’m sorry ScottieStyles . It does take an awful long time sometimes. As long as you’re still looking after yourself and you’re okay ... it’s okay to grieve sometimes over something or someone you lost x hopefully things will get better for you x keep busy and remember to seek professional help if you feel you need to x

[RainneLim]

Hi.

I hope you find peace that you are truly better off without her. My first loved ended a four years ago. He still pops up in my mind. And yes, I still very much love him. He was my everything, but I don't want to be with him. When we first broke up, I would have dreams of us still being together and then suddenly I would wake up and we weren't. Reality. I would have panic attacks while I went to school and the only way I calmed down was being in class, trying a way to distract myself.

Healthy distractions is key. Work out. Run outside. Get into a hobby like video games or a sports game. Mine was lifting (don't do it anymore. Now, I am a tiny 24 year old who struggles to open milk). After time, you will still think of her. You may even find someone else and think about her ex from time to time. But you will find out the most that you guys are better off without each other. And that's okay.

I hope this was helpful. I totally understand what you mean. It sucks. The only "medicine" you need is time. And as time goes on, focus on helping yourself through working out.

[peanutbuttercup]

Why did you guys split?

[Orangeblossom85]

Oh Scottie! I share the same feeling. It’s been a year too. I miss him so so much. But I need to keep to realism and never forget that the person I loved so deeply didn’t really hold on before hurting me.

Be strong. There is a reason for each and every break up. It’s time to heal, time to be yourself, to grow, to change. If you feel nothing without her - reach out to her again. But if you feel double minded ... then I guess you know what is right to be done here. I wish you strength!

[ScottieStyles in reply to Orangeblossom85]

Thanks for the reply, I really do want to reach out, but I know she has made her mind up, I wish I could upload my feelings in to her head, she may understand, but alas I can't, I just know we lost some thing special, as the petshop boys song goes, you are always on my mind

[Hidden]

Hey there, I hope you know you’re not alone in this. My ex boyfriend & I split for GOOD reasons a few months ago... & sometimes I think I’m still very much in love with him. Or the person I thought he was. I hope somehow you can overcome this. I don’t know. I don’t have all the answers myself yet, but I’m in therapy because of it. I just wanted you to know you’re not alone. I wish you happiness, peace, & love in the days ahead. <3

[ScottieStyles]

I'm doing what I, can, it's taking a lot longer than I thought it would, just wish I could talk to her, it's not like we finished in a nasty way, even though she broke my heart, I don't have any ill feelings towards her,

[Hidden in reply to ScottieStyles]

I would consider reaching out then. Maybe it will help you get the closure you need, or a reconciliation. You never know if you don’t try.

[ScottieStyles]

I've considered calling her, but I don't have the courage, I walk past her yesterday, as we work very close by, she was looking really fit, it feels weird, that she was with in touching distance, but felt a million miles away, this time last year we were best buds, and now I can't even say hello to her

[Orangeblossom85 in reply to ScottieStyles]

Maybe instead of calling, send her a text. Say you miss her deeply and that she meant the world to you.

[ScottieStyles]

I have tried, I wrote her a deep from the heart letter, a couple of months ago,

[ScottieStyles]

I've been OK last few days, I was at a festival a couple of days ago, which triggerd certain memories, I still miss her dearly

[Hidden]

You won't feel this bad forever, it's early days, in the meantime be kind to yourself, it's very sad that your split happened during a difficult period, it's not easy, but it does get easier with time xxx

[zevietnameseguy98]

Hi there, you aren't alone in this Scottie. I am feeling the same way you do :). We will fight this battle together and we will come out on top. It's not easy and surely, it's always hurting to think back about the past. Stay strong, stay tough my friend. You deserve happiness and sooner or later, it will come to you :). Good luck, mate.

[ScottieStyles]

Thanks for the replay, I'm out walkin in the lake district in the UK, its 830 in the morning, forced my self out of bed, feeling better, its the morning and waking up alone that truly sucks, I still miss her, every day

[ScottieStyles]

Still miss her, mind you if she did contact me, I would not know what to do it's been so long

[zevietnameseguy98 in reply to ScottieStyles]

Hi there, chap. I have the same problem you do. I suggest you coming and telling her all these feelings in person. If you truly love her and miss her like that, it's worthwhile to let her know. I have been taking early MMA class in the morning when I usually miss her to kind of distract my mind until I have to focus on working . It's really working well because I have been putting my frustration towards those sandbags and plus it's a good workout to keep yourself healthy. I reckon you try it. Good luck, mate. You aren't alone. Stay strong and sharp.

[ScottieStyles in reply to zevietnameseguy98]

I wish it was that simple, things have got complicated over the last year

[zevietnameseguy98 in reply to ScottieStyles]

So sorry to hear that, mate. Is it still possible for you to work it out with her despite the complication? If not, why not try dating again with another girl, I am sure you will be able to find another one :). Stay strong and keep on updating your feeling. Its very hard going through what you are going through now. I am going through the same stuff too.

[ScottieStyles]

I am dating somebody. who Is so kind and supportive to me, This is why its complicated.

I still have the feelings for the ex inside me which I cannot shift no matter what I do

[ScottieStyles]

Message to my ex, I just wish we could patch it up, loved you so much