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MrZee
MrZee

I’m turning 60 soon and am having a hard time with that. Time is moving so fast and I’m aging.

Recently I went to the DMV to get my driver’s license renewed. The new one came in the mail today. I’m so upset with how my picture turned out. I literally look like I’m 85 years old in the picture. In real life I don’t look that old. But my f’ing license picture is so damned depressing.

These are some of the things that trigger a depression. Oh ho hum.

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I’m dealing with this too, it’s depressing indeed. My partner likes my looks and that’s all I can hope for. So much sun damage. Thinning hair. Belly bulge. Eeeeeek! So it’s gonna take acceptance and conscious effort to maybe fight it. Sometimes I see how much it holds me back and I realize I gotta let go and get over myself. I heard this: nobody loves you for your looks. That helps me cuz when you think about it, it’s so true.

Thanks Strongheart. It’s just that time is moving so fast now. And then we look in the mirror and seen we’ve aged. Letting go of physical youth is hard.

That is cool of you! Yeah, when I was in my early twenties, I was near perfect compared to my battle scars now. I swore I would die before cellulite hit

me...Now, I have scars from weird rashes, am overweight...the Queen of Cellulite!

Hidden
Hidden

Hi MrZee! 😀

I have been struggling a bit with the inevitable aging process too. I’m 57. Honestly! When I catch a glimpse of myself when passing by a mirror, I scare myself! Somehow in my head, I envision myself looking like I did when I was in my 30’s and it’s like I forget that I’m not!! So strange what the mind can do! Oh well, the attractive days of my youth are gone! I really do understand how you feel...

MrZee
MrZee
in reply to Hidden

Thanks Gratitude. I really appreciate that. Mirrors and photos can be so damned unfair as we age. I still feel like I’m in my 20s and 30s (other than my aches and pains).

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to MrZee

Me too!

gogogirl
gogogirl
in reply to MrZee

Me too, and somebody told me I had a young voice ( on the phone). Maybe that person needs a hearing aid. Ha.

gogogirl
gogogirl
in reply to Hidden

You're fifty seven? Well, I looked at your picture and thought you were in your twenties or thirties!!! Right on! Somebody told me today I didn't look my age- I looked much younger- think the person needs new glasses! Ha!

Hidden
Hidden

My twin sister still gets carded when she buys booze. She is so angry about it. She was even asked to leave a casino because the security didn’t believe she was 21. She was 27 when that happened. In fact we went out to eat with her the other day and she ordered a margarita and they didn’t put alcohol in it. She is short and seems not to age. We are both forty this year.

MrZee
MrZee
in reply to Hidden

H-,

I would be honored to be carded. That would certainly make me feel young again.

I have this old fat woman who follows me around! I see her in mirrors and shop doorways, everywhere. I don't know who she is but I wish she would leave me alone... x

MrZee
MrZee
in reply to hypercat54

Try not to look back at her. Just like me not letting the old man stare me down.

gogogirl
gogogirl
in reply to hypercat54

I like that one- and I have a more silvery haired one- who is that? Ha Ha.

Hello. Those DMV pics do that to everyone. I got a pic taken recently and it killed my day, the way I looked. Those DMV pics are the worse. Trust me ....Samson

MrZee
MrZee
in reply to Strongest123

Thank you Samson. By happenstance all my previous DMV license pictures were great. This time around... oy vey.

I certainly do appreciate your empathy.

Best,

MZ

I actually got a great picture! The first and last! You know whoever took it cut 'how to take crappy photos' class for sure!

I am now 54. Believe me, I know exactly how you feel! Yesterday was a nasty day. I looked in the mirror and what I saw was oh so depressing! I am so glad you wrote because I was feeling rather small for caring about aging. Life is too harsh on us. We age way too quickly to deal with. As if life did not suck already! One slightly brighter note: I met an older woman who was full of life and almost seemed to shine. She told me that for her, life always was dark until she hit her fifties. She was actually content and happy! She was in her sixties...I think it can be that way for us.

Lain

MrZee
MrZee
in reply to Lain599

I’ve heard that from many people that life begins in their 50s. Well my 50s came and went at the snap of a finger. Which only means my 60s will even be faster.

The other day by happenstance I found a picture of me at 27. The first thing I thought was, damn, I looked great! Now I’m over twice that age and the looks are gone and gravity’s taken hold of my body.

I know I’m whining, but aging just sucks. It never really bothered me before until 60 came.

Lain599
Lain599
in reply to MrZee

Naw, men never age! I find older men attractive. I always have. The one time I dated someone my age he was gorgeous but totally vapid! II married my husband. Same age. Abusive and not that bright...30 years of fun. How I wish I could still have had my wonderful sons, stayed home and dated older men.

They are in all ways terrific...plus, they are not so hung up.

MrZee
MrZee
in reply to Lain599

A... you’re a sweetheart. Being Gay is so “age” driven. For a lot of Gay men aging is hard. The good thing is I’m not alone. There’s a lot of Gay seniors out there and when we get together we share those wild memories of our youth.

What’s amazing in a bizarre way was when I was younger, 60 seemed so so far away. And an eye blink later here it is.

Lain599
Lain599
in reply to MrZee

Well, that sucks! Go forth and do battle!

MrZee
MrZee
in reply to Lain599

Thanks 599. I actually find that encouraging.

gogogirl
gogogirl
in reply to Lain599

I like that - like the Grey Panthers! I am approaching the next decade- well not yet- but it will be here before ya know it!

Cool.

The new DMV pictures are lousy. My wife just had hers done and she said the same thing. It’s something how things touch us. On a positive not the profile picture you have here looks great.

MrZee
MrZee
in reply to Rpan

Thank you Rpan. Your compliment made my day. 🤗

Well Happy Pre Birthday Mr. Zee, and I know the feelings of being in that decade all too well. I have been there for many years. Thing is- I still feel young, but I "love" this one- Sixty is the new forty! Nope, sixty is the new sixty. Yes, I know what you mean - one day one thinks that time will just stand still , and the next- what happened- was I sleeping????

Lain599
Lain599
in reply to gogogirl

Alack! So very true! I will be 55 soon, ugh!, but I swear I am much, much younger. Time to start counting backwards.

gogogirl
gogogirl
in reply to Lain599

Nah, ya don't want to count backwards- you have all that wisdom and experience.

"It is just a number!" Don't you hate empty, patronizing dribble like that! "At least you got your health!" How much wiser are you than 30 years ago, probably a lot. It is time to utilize that bank of knowledge.

Wiser? Well..... Older???? Yup!!!

I got a great shot knowing that the poor girl who took it skipped the 'take a horrible photo' class.

Normal pictures...I look like congealed porridge in glasses...ugh! So, believe me, you just got someone who took the required 'take a foul photo' class!

MrZee
MrZee
in reply to Lain599

Glad you can relate. Yes, sometimes photos do come out on the intimidating side.

Lain599
Lain599
in reply to MrZee

You know it!

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