Why?

[Olinick]

Why is it that some people are able to go through life effortlessly and others have one struggle after another? I have dealt with one thing after another since January of this year. This week I kept saying I just have to get through this week at work and finish up the school year next week and then have a 3 week vacation. I don't travel due to anxiety but just being able to stay at home and take it easy is wonderful. Late last night I got a phone call from my sister that my mother now has a broken hip. After being my parents caregiver for over ten years with little to no help from my brother and sister, I finally said several years ago I can't do this anymore. My sister moved my mother down near her and I was supposed to have these past few years to put my life back together again. Yet it continues to be one thing after another. Now I may have to travel to Pennsylvania which will greatly increase the anxiety, actually spend time with my sister which will greatly increase the anxiety and not have time off before I start summer school. I am so tired, the anxiety is already so high, I don't know how much more I can take. I just want peace in my life. I am not asking for much, just to have peace in my life.

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Hi Olinick,

I feel the same way sometimes. It seems that nobody else constantly has "situations" to take care of.

If you took care of your parents for 10 years or so, don't be in a hurry to pitch in. You deserve to take something off of your list of things to do. We get so used to doing everything that we can't see that we are neglecting ourselves. This contributes to our anxiety and depression.

[kenster1]

hi every one has struggles don't be fooled thinking other wise its just folk like us can be open about it and others just disguise it better.

[hypercat54]

Hi I am sorry to hear about your mum. No one is able to go through life effortlessly dealing with everything it throws at them. Some people have learned better coping strategies than others that's all. It is possible to learn them yourself but is much more difficult when suffering from depression and/or anxiety.

I wish your mother well and hope she recovers soon. You haven't got to spend all your free time with her so save some for relaxing too. x