College Student

[jessehall95]

I recently just finished the semester, and I got all F’s. February marks one year of my friend killing himself, and today, his baby said his first word, which was dada. I’ve had depression since February 2017, and even with medication, I still get down days. Does this get better?

[Ayla-Kat]

I am sorry about your friend and my heart goes out to you. There will be difficult things in life that we have to face. It is the human condition. If you get a chance read The Prophet by Khalil Gibran. It's a poem about life. I dropped out of college twice from severe depression and heartbreak. But eventually I got a degree. There are moments in life that seem like there is no light at the end. Keep trying. Be kind to yourself and forgiving. You don't have to be perfect. Sometimes you will find instances of joy and happiness. Like in a laugh or smile from someone. I too am sad from grief. But when you expressed your grief, it's because you loved them so much. It goes hand in hand. You are a beautiful person because you loved someone . Much love to you my dear. You are not alone.

[Shannon00444]

I was just thinking today, how long is it acceptable to feel sadness over a particular event? When should I be over this? Why does this still hurt? And I realized there’s no answer. My heart is healing in its own time. While I don’t ruminate over it or obsess over it, the hurt is till there and demands to be felt sometimes. And I let myself know that that’s ok. Hugs. ❤️

[NewBeginning1]

I feel your pain. i lost my father during college. My short term memory was gone. My head was not in the game. You’re haunted by memories and wonder if you could have done something to alter the outcome. It does get better and i am sure you will bounce back. Maybe a different medication would help?

[Hidden]

I have found in my journey with depression that things do get easier as time marches on.

[eaer]

This can get better, yes. But no lies, the pain will take time to clear. I am so sorry that your grades were so low...but they can get better too. I am so sorry for the loss of your friend too. One important thought is that you can have some surprisingly better days that come in between and when you persevere through the hard days.

Only a suggestion... watching your friend’s baby, a beautiful gift in your life, can bring your friend’s heart close to you? Maybe? Babies bring awe, joy, and wonder to the here and now.

I am no expert, and the pain you feel is very individual to you. Yet I read your note and the hope that you are seeking is there, at least, in the child in front of you. You have been through extremely tough times, and now you can slowly move toward each day’s wonder in the little baby and any family/friends that surround you. Seek them out...

I wish you at least one small joy each day in order to keep moving in the direction of hope. Many blessings to you from my heart.