Why!!!

I'm never good enough I hate feeling like this

[gerg]

I understand what you are saying. From that one sentence I see that you are probably making you feel this way.

Is it true that you are “never” good enough? By whose standards? If you hate feeling like this, why do you choose to feel like this?

This is called disputing your irrational self-talk. It is a process that stops a lot of the pain that we subject ourselves to. Then when we get to rational beliefs we can easily solve the underlying problem, if we choose to.

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Yes I agree and understand what your saying I guess it'just the way I take people's gestures I have been looking for work for months had to move back with my family because I cant' keep the power on myself and finally got o job that I start this Friday and all I keep heaing is must be nice not to work till Friday it'like wtf you think I like being out of work you think I don't beat myself up mentally as it is

[Midnightwolf1]

I know how you feel. I haven't really got out of that yet and I myself don't even know how to stop myself from thinking that. Like gerg said, by whose standards. I haven't even thought about that. I guess I'm just thinking in my head what the ideal daughter or girlfriend or sister in my head is and see I am not that. But as I am writing this I see, I am me and there is no one else like me so why should I change just to be good enough for someone. So that means you are you. You are one of a kind. That special once in a life time person so you are good enough. You are better than the people who don't see that.... I hope this helps in some way cause somehow your post helped me in a way...

[Hidden in reply to Midnightwolf1]

Definitely has helps I'm going to figure it out thank you

[Midnightwolf1 in reply to Hidden]

anytime..

[bridder01 in reply to Midnightwolf1]

We all have to be mindful of what we tell ourselves. There is a thing called radical acceptance. Accepting that what is, is. Good, bad or ugly. We are unique in this world. If we were all the same, life would be....in a word.....dull. 'Variety is the spice of Life' Never be afraid to be yourself. Those who see the good in you will gravitate to you. If there's anyone in your life who has a negative influence, tell 'em to hit the bricks! There's no one more fabulous on this earth as you are! It's time to show the world what they've been missing

Brian

[Hidden in reply to bridder01]

people have been trying to change me most of my life they want me to be a perfect man but there's no such thing I hate it more then anything thats what really hurts me deep down inside

[bridder01 in reply to Hidden]

Mike, hate to break it to ya.....nobody's perfect. You can only be you. Anyone who tries to change you...look at em funny and walk away. They're not worth the time or energy.

Just be yourself...those that really matter already like what they see

[Hidden in reply to bridder01]

the problem is I can't walk away it's my own family fml

[gerg in reply to Midnightwolf1]

A big part of my anxiety was mind reading. Putting unfounded thoughts into the minds of others. I could be talking to someone and without reason I would think that they are thinking I’m boring, or dozens of other unfounded judgments. I never seemed to put a positive type thought in their mind. Why would I with my low self esteem. It is so clear to me now, I cannot believe I thought this way for so long.

[bridder01 in reply to gerg]

I hear ya brother!

[Hidden in reply to gerg]

I had no clue there were other people that can read minds like know what people are thinking

[gerg in reply to Hidden]

I knew you were going to say that...

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Hit me up anytime you need to talk my name's Mike I'll be your friend