Obnoxious on the outside, Dead on the inside

[xGhostKingX]

Whenever I talk to people, I try to act as energetic/enthusiastic as possible. The end result is that I end up seeming overly happy/clingy to the point where it’s annoying.

I can keep up the act for a while, but I always ruin it. I’ve tried being myself but no one believes me.

I’ve been binging too much recently, since I’ve been feeling so empty.

I don’t know what to do anyone. All I can do around my friends is act stupid or they don’t even acknowledge me, other than a few “Are you okay’s” where I reply “no”, but they just turn away laughing. At this point, there isn’t much I can do with anyone.

I’ve been trying to keep up the act but it crumbles down and backfires a lot.

Today, even my mom got annoyed at my obnoxious behavior. I feel like such a failure...

[Lostjoy]

Can you maybe try and tone it down a little. Maybe quit trying so hard, and just be yourself. Also I know this is easier said than done “as I obsess over conversations I’ve had with people after the fact because I worry I’ve said something wrong or sounded stupid” but try and not worry so much about what others think. Most of the time it’s just our minds telling us what others are thinking when in reality most people don’t give a second thought to anything we’ve said or done.

When your mind gets stuck obsessing about what others are thinking about you, try and distract it by thinking of something that has made you feel good in the past. It takes lots of work but it can be done.

Wishing you the best..

[_degrey]

You are not a failure!

I find myself in the same predicament sometimes. I try to act excessively happy around others, especially those I do not know when in truth, I feel quite the opposite. It takes time, but I believe it is helpful to find that "happy medium" when you needed.

Being yourself is the best possible solution, but sometimes this is not so easy, especially if you are not so confident or have severe social anxieties. One step at a time. One day at a time.

If they are really your friends, they will understand, accept, and love you when you choose to just be yourself.

Sending you good vibes xoxo

[Chinnup]

Just be yourself - trying to be someone you're not is too exhausting.

No one expects you to be happy all the time.

Try to find a happy medium, and maybe even some new friends.

[gogogirl]

I once saw a sign that said " Be yourself. Everyone else is taken."

[xGhostKingX in reply to gogogirl]

Thanks but i wish it were that easy

[Chinnup in reply to xGhostKingX]

It's not easy. To make positive changes you have to work at it.

[gogogirl]

I have been through situations like that myself- now that I am old I have other issues, but I know that trying to act can be exhausting. At least you are aware of it- remember your real people will like YOU for yourself.