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Hi, yes I do it all the time. I deleted my fb page so I wouldn’t have to see any of it. I feel like I’m being jealous, but I don’t know how to deal with myself feeling so bad while it seems like everyone else in my life is enjoying their lives. It’s an awful feeling.

Yes - I feel this all the time. And I feel like sometimes it works the other way too, I get people asking me why I can't just see things differently. I feel like telling them, 'I don't want to be depressed or anxious, and I am working really hard on it' - today this particular feeling has be kind of beat. I feel like my classic line is 'on the bright side'... but today putting a positive spin on things has just tired me out.

I read a great quote on this blog: Don't compare your insides with everyone else's outsides. You don't know what's going on behind all those happy smiles of others.

I'm 62, and I never married and have no kids. I always felt so bad about that, like I was the "oddball". But some married friends have told me that I didn't miss all that much - all the stress and tension that results in raising a family. And I've run out of fingers counting my friends and relatives who got divorced.

I know it's a cliché, but we just have to do the best we can with what we have. Many people are healthier, mentally and physically, and they are free to do more. It ain't fair, but who said life was fair?

I feel that way a lot too- I feel like they are doing great and doing something with their lives, my wife especially, and I’m stuck in the mud getting left behind. Might not be true, but I definitely feel like it.

Same. Like my husband is so calm and relaxed when we go places and I'm just a nervous reck and all I want to do is be home where I'm comfortable it is awful

At times like this it helps to remember what IS going right for you. You have a good marriage, a healthy child, and a roof over your head, for starters. So many, many people on this blog have none of those things, yet they still have the same illnesses we do, or much worse.

I hope you are getting medical treatment for your condition, so you can start moving things in the right direction.

Looks like a lot of us feel this way, so you're not the only one Aorli. Sometimes I even try to imagine what it would be like if I was in their body. I wonder how it would feel and how I would live there. I suspect it would be just like it is now since I'd take myself with me. I'm learning to appreciate some things about myself, but it is still a difficult thing to do to look for something I like about myself. That's something we all seem to struggle with.

You know social media is deceiving. You dont know whats really happennin behind all those pictures and posts. You dont know whats really happening in their lives. People wouldnt post anything that show them how bad their lives are..

Funny how i was a victim of this too but i realize that i should just focus on me....

I feel the same, I had to close my social media. Happy people made me more depressed. I would love to be like them but that seems impossible right now

it’s nice to hear some older people posting I’m 61 female married for 40 years two beautiful children married four beautiful grandchildren with one on the way however I suffer from depression and I have attempted suicide three times in the past I know I have an illness I see a therapist every week I take my medication and I have been pretty good for the last eight months until two days ago and something affecting me and I have been in a state of panic and depression for two days while my thoughts are back my fear of losing people in my life is foremost my mother is 91 and a panic about her dying I how to live without her i feat getting older I fear everything I don’t watch the news and I have not been on Facebook for over a year . why do these horrible episodes recur

I'm so happy for you. I know longer go to church cause it hurts so much to see couples that are growing old together yet I'm so alone. I pray for find the peace within you.

Absolutely thats funny because i was just telling my therapist that yesterday. But you know what they might be having issue's also maybe not as bad as us but maybe they do. When we are out we try to act as normal as we can and pretty much nobody knows its probably the same for alot of people out there in the world you just cant see it.. keep your head up it doesn't last forever im in the same boat think positive the devil wants you to see things this way..

Yes and I get jealous of simple things like they are free to go to their job everyday, drive anywhere they want, go to the malls and supermarket while I struggle to even get out my door. I try to be optimistic like exercise everyday, eliminate junk food , take my medication, seek help, I’m taking three college classes online because I’m too afraid to be in a normal classroom. It sucks sooo bad .__.

I don't know what to do i want out my body my head is going to explode