Don’t Predict My Behavior

[ImInTroubleAgain]

My parter keeps telling people that he gives me 3 months at a job before I lose it (my mind and the job). I wanted it to be different this time. I wanted it so badly but now it’s happening. I don’t know what to tell my boss. He will think I’m a psychopath who told him all good things to get the job and now I’m all wired and nervous. I knew it was coming when I started biting my nails and couldn’t stop but I wasn’t gonna. Be the same person at this job. I tried much harder. But I sweat uncontrollably whenever people talk to me. I can’t find words to finish a conversation. I isolate myself and that makes me feel like I’m going crazy.

[AnxietySterling]

I am sorry for what you are going through. I think that the idea of having a partner is to have someone on your side, someone that will be your support and encourage you to be better. I think that what he says is just mean.

Have you tried any type of medication? or look for professional help? If that is not an option, try breathing techniques, relaxation, exercise. It may help you to feel a little better.

I hope you can stay at your job and be successful

[ImInTroubleAgain in reply to AnxietySterling]

Thanks. I don’t think he says it to be mean but is just rather ignorant. I decided to talk with him today and discuss how that makes me feel. Once my health insurance starts, I will have better options. I’m hanging in here. Thanks!

[AnxietySterling in reply to ImInTroubleAgain]

I am glad you talked to him. Hopefully it helps. I found a few articles online about how to help if your partner has anxiety. Every so often I show my husband those and I think he is getting better helping me when i am in bad shape.

[ImInTroubleAgain in reply to AnxietySterling]

I’m really happy to hear that. I just don’t want to ever feel like this again and I know if I do nothing, it will come back.

[gogogirl]

Do you see a counselor or talk to anyone close to you about this problem? I hope so.

[ImInTroubleAgain in reply to gogogirl]

Soon. Just waiting for my insurance to start. Although, I may just pay the $150 for a session sooner.

[gogogirl]

BTW- your partner needs to be more encouraging- not less. I hope you stay at your job and show yourself that you can do it. Do it for YOU.

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Hiya, so sorry to hear about what you are going through. I was a manger in a very tough profession for most of my career so I have experienced what are you are going through (sometimes as bad as total fear and panic) and also managed, advised and supported people in the same predicament. You would be surprised to know how many people suffer from this some or all of the time. I guess many people are good at hiding the fear. Sometimes the ones who appear the most confident are full of insecurities. What I have come to realise after all these years (and, yes, I wish I had known this a long time ago) is that you cannot control events but only your reaction to them and, also, the things we worry about tend not to happen. We have to teach ourselves to respond proportionately to events and the more we do this the better we can respond. I would definitely talk to your manager and work colleagues about how you are feeling and they will offer you reassurance. If not, then they are not worth your time. You just need a bit of support and reassurance at work (and the role of any decent manager/boss is to support his/her staff) and I promise you you will flourish. Take care,