So Anxious Can't Breath and Doubting My Feelings. Please let me know how you would feel.

[mduree]

My husband and I both have bi-polar, but, function well with support. My husbands family is not the type of people that I would normally spend time with. There are lots of issues like; racism ( I am mixed race), hatred of immigrants, homophobia. I have done my best to have a relationship with them for the sake of my husband. Recently we spent $1,000 to go visit them. We flew in to Dallas because they live far out in Texas. His father drove a few hours to pick us up and then wanted to charge us $100 gas money. This hurt and felt so wrong. They have built a new house, purchased a very fancy motorhome, taken trips to Hawaii, Alaska, New Zealand, virginia etc....they don't need the money. In fact, my husbands grandmother left him a percent of income property that she passed on the his father and step mother. They are supposed to make monthly payment to him. They have missed 7 months of payment. They have also sold the property in which case my husband should have gotten a percent of the sale. His father said he wasn't going to pay it because they didn't have it, but, were talking about buying a new car while we were there and packages for imported sparkling wines were being delivered from Italy. Finally, on the day we were to leave they were insisting on taking us to the airport 9 1/2 hours before our flight. Yes, it is a 5 hour drive, but, we were traveling with a support animal and it is not ok for the animal to be cooped up from 9 in the morning until 11 at night when we would land. They keep insisting. I felt like they couldn't wait to get rior how you would feel, because, I feel overwhelmed and anxious with doubt. Confronting them terrifies me, but, not standing up for ourselves does too. I am so anxious I can't breath and I am questioning my feelings.d of us. I feel hurt, confused, anxious and lost. As it was, we left at 10am and we were at the airport 3 and 1/3 hrs early. His father was even asking us to have our bags packed and put in the car the night before we were leaving. The thing is - I spent more money on a flight with a layover that was later in the day thinking that little extra time a father would want to spend with his son. There was a direct flight for less money a couple hours earlier. So, it really hurt. Please tell me what you think. Confronting them terrifies me, but, so does not standing up for ourselves. I feel so anxious I can't breathe.

[Xene]

Hi mduree, unfortunately they're his parents so it's up to him to confront them, although sometimes confrontation no matter how mild can cause a bigger rift than there is already? As regards to his inheritance, has he got a copy of the will? If not he probably won't get very far claiming it. Can he stand up to his dad? In-laws can be a nightmare even if you're the same ethnic origin that's why there's so many jokes about them! Good luck.

Xene