Losing mom in my late adulthood

[Anxiety-1]

Hi all

I keep getting these anxiety attacks on and off. I understand this is due to the loss of my mom. Why can’t I stop thinking about it. Sometimes I feel that I am going to lose it.

I have been living with my mom all through my adulthood. My children and me had kept my mom company and basically I was a caretaker.

[Denhans]

Hello, my heart goes out to you. I went through similar feelings when I lost my dad, 30 years ago in March. It took me almost 7 years to come to terms and accept he wasn’t coming back! I let it go. I have a smile on my face and a warmth in my belly when i think about him now. I still talk to him most days ( a photo of him looking right me) and that’s the biggest comfort. My brother died a year ago, after about 4 months I had already accepted it! Plus he’s with my dad! That’s the first time I’ve ever told anyone that! So thank you for waking up that part of my brain. Sending hugs🌸🌸

[EduardoHors3]

Man your story hit me hard. I can't imagine what it's like to loose a parent but I know someday it will happen to me as well. It will happen to all of us. By the sounds of it you loved your mother very much and I'm sure she loved you the same. This will take a very long time to overcome but you will. You will thrive and make your mother proud wherever she is at. You have your children to live for now. Please keep fighting.

[Forestina]

Your mother is a great loss. I loat both parents in my early thirties within four months if each other. It is very painful and even though I was their adopted child they gave made me who I am.

[gogogirl]

It's very hard- I went through this many years ago. May you continue to have the support you need surrounded by people who care about you. I am here.

[gogogirl]

I am sure it leaves a hole in your life to say the least. May you find comfort in all of the memories.

[Anxiety-1 in reply to gogogirl]

I just can't stop thinking about it. I am so confused that sometimes I don't know if I am suffering from anxiety or depression. I am so afraid, is this normal.

[gogogirl]

I think it's the quality of life that matters not the diagnosis. Feel free to vent any time. I remember feeling lost also. That is a great loss , and no description on paper can describe that. I hope you will find comfort with your family, and others in your circle. Again, I am sorry for your loss.

[Natsteveo]

Hi Anxiety-1

I too lost my lovely mum 10 years ago now still feels like yesterday??

For one you are grieving...losing your mom is so hard she's your mom your queen so when you lose her I find you lose half of yourself well I did it literally broke me nothing could console me or comfort me no matter what anyone said..

Your depression and anxiety don't help but we do seem to have that when we lose someone as important.

The losing it part is normal although you won't lose it honey you just feel you will that's your anxiety telling you just remember anxiety is just a thought nothing else but it's very hard to understand..

But you cared for her you was there when she needed you the most you made her happy along with your children I hope that comforts you that you were with her through it you've just got to remember how your mom lived not how she died I had trouble with this for a long time so it's normal to be like this it does ease over time but you never get over your loss you just push through it each day best you can but it does ease over time you just learn to cope somehow.

Here if you need a chat

Nat