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my mother and step father are going on a cruise in february . she is forcing him to get minutes for out of the US so she can still get ahold of me . she controlling enough that she can’t even go on vacation without needing or wanting to still have control . my fiancé and i are trying to talk her out of it so i can have free time with him and not be control by mother , i doubt that will happen , but i will try my best to still have a good time with him while they are gone !

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hypercat54

Maybe your mother is worried about you? x

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kw41716 in reply to hypercat54

no , she said the reason was she wants to make sure i don’t destroy the house or kill the cats ... i have never in my life been a destructive kid or have hurt an animal

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hypercat54 in reply to kw41716

That's what she says but I bet it's more to do with being worried about you and how you will cope. Maybe she is too embarrassed to tell the truth or thinks you might react badly to it. Your mother is only a human being like any other you know and hasn't read any books on how to be the perfect mother! Well I presume she hasn't...x

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kw41716 in reply to hypercat54

ill be great ! ill have my fiancé with me the whole time , i highly doubt she’s worried about me , she hasn’t been for almost 2-3 yrs now

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HearYou

HUmmmm...Unless she wants to pay the high cost of ship to shore phone, or pays for internet, which you don't have to answer her, what's the issue? :)

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kw41716 in reply to HearYou

i do have to answer or i get grounded and my phone taken

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HearYou in reply to kw41716

Excuse me?

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kw41716 in reply to HearYou

if i don’t answer my phone i’ll get in big trouble

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HearYou in reply to kw41716

Well, at your age, not certain what type of big "trouble" you can get into.....I guess I have lost track of the whole picture of your family and the dynamics. So I'm just going to quite for awhile and listen,

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gogogirl in reply to kw41716

Whoa- what? You're old enough to be engaged , work and plan a wedding, but you'll be grounded???? I have to digest that one. How about enjoying yourself, and tell her to have a good time?

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kw41716 in reply to gogogirl

we havent set a wedding date yet , he’s going to finish college first , and yes she thinks she can ground me still because i’m still in her and my step fathers house . i’m going to try my best to enjoy my time with my fiancé as much as i can while they are gone !

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gogogirl in reply to kw41716

That sounds like a plan. Some parents I imagine have a hard time cutting the apron strings but if you've been responsible that is what counts. Enjoy getting to know more and more about each other.

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AntiSocialSocialClub in reply to HearYou

Maybe she's jealous of you and your husband. Hope you figure it out.

my bad fiance

So you get grounded and phone taken away...maybe you're too young to have a fiance

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i’m almost 20

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