depression (in a very bad place)no support

[Poppetpud]

Hello all,really very down and depressed for many reasons.recently quit smoking awaiting test results and don't feel good about them,also have a partner is NOT very supportive or understanding.So close to starting smoking again because if damage is already done whats the point?

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Hang in there! I'm proud of you that you gave them up, very difficult to do! Keep up the good work. Wishing you health!!!!

[deea21]

Hey. In my opinion depression and anxiety are your own battle and even if someone try to help you ; in the end you need to fight with yourself. Some people can understand some don’t. Some could be just damaged by the problem you have and try to deny it because they don’t know how to help you. We need to try to understand that we need to find who we are and let depression be a part of the process where we will start to love ourselves and become who we need to be. Hang up in there, We are here for you and understand you ; because we have similar paths. You have support, you have us. If you seek on this app you will learn that we can help each other to grow. Big hugs 😘

[Poppetpud in reply to deea21]

Appreciate very much what you saying but what if he is the cause of it.He seems to compete with me at every level no matter what I have(headache,tinnius,new glasses etc).I was doing wonderful until he moved in???and then it went south.Anyway glad I found you guys and thankyou for your support.

[deea21 in reply to Poppetpud]

You can try fight with your problem and after see what’s wrong with your relationship. I was to so many psychologists and therapists in my life that I learned that in every relationship there 2 people and both are doing something wrong. But you need to work with this 2 problems separately. Depression it’s a big thing and if your partner never experienced it’s really hard to find understand and even harder if you are at the begging of the relationship. In my opinion you and him just start to know how you both are. I understand it’s pretty hard, but do not give up. I’m here for you. If you want you can write me anytime. 😘

[Poppetpud in reply to deea21]

he has had depression 3 times used to be big drinker and continued to do so even after doc put him on anti depression meds.Told him many times but accused me of picking on his drinking???.So has some experience in this condition.

[deea21 in reply to Poppetpud]

That means he has a problem too. And it isn’t you the fault. Maybe a therapy couple would help. And until then try to work with yourself no matter what. In the end everyone can choose what they want in their life and you need to fight and help yourself how do you feel it’s the best for you. I think we all have the answer what’s the best for ourselves in our hearts. Keep quit and listen, in the end you will hear .

[Forestina]

Please hang on in there after doing so well. It is perfectly natural to be anxious over test results and the waiting must be horrendous.

Thoughts are with you. Good luck.

[Rosina29]

Please don’t start smoking again. Even if there is some damage you certainly don’t want to make it worse!