Robbed

[sandii100]

Our house got robbed on the 23rd. We lost all our jewelry which was worth a lot of money. I’m feeling the effects of it today. I want to cry, sit on the couch and sulk. I need to keep it together for the kids though. I have GAD and have been on meds for the last 10 years. What a way to spend Christmas break. I’d like to get over this soon

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Sorry that your families privacy and property was violated. Hope you all can push threw this, and have a better new year!

[Janieliza]

Firstly I'm so sorry to read about the burglary. I'm disgusted for you. I hate things like this...people who honestly earn a crust going to work(or not) and it's taken by what I can only refer to as dregs of society who deem it perfectly ok to take what's not theirs. I'm sorry I've ranted there. This only adds to a difficult time for many and of course you will feel awful and I'm sorry you do. I'm not sure what I can say to comfort you...i know the keeping it together for the kids...ohhh yes. Don't hold it completely in tho as it then may build and then you could feel ten times worse. When the kids are sleeping...have a cry. It is a form of release, I always feel better after a good old sob. If talking helps...do that also. My goodness you have really had the book of emotions thrown at you(aptly named Anger, frustration, fear and tears) and no-one would bat an eyelid if you got visibly upset. You are allowed to sulk ..i personally would...id be utterly bleeped off so be proud of yourself for thinking it rather than doing it. But please don't hold it in for too long...as I mentioned earlier..youve suffered enough, I don't want you to wind your emotions up into knots then be in a worse state. If you want to chat there's always someone around here to support you, including myself. Take care. Janie.

[Victory_7 in reply to Janieliza]

Good advice Janie! Sandii100- I'll be praying for you and your family. That really stinks what happened to you. I too suffer from anxiety and it's been overwhelming me the last several months. It keeps getting worse and I want to shut down, which may affect my job and family. I'm 37 and my anxiety is taking over. Any advice for me?

[Janieliza in reply to Victory_7]

Shutting down is a reaction that I believe all of us have probably wanted to do...it makes sense if we think about it...no more negative thoughts...no more pain. No more emotions. But in reality...we can't. There's an element of us that shuts down anyway with anxiety and depression. We just don't see it...others do tho. We lose the ability to care about ourselves...we don't care whether we are here or not and many follow thro with the 'not'. It's tragic. The problem is...theres no easy fix to it. Most of the work we have to do and when we have zero tolerance and confidence....forget it. There's a but coming. BUT...i keep talking about a light. You can decide what it looks like...mine was at the end of a bridge and each step towards it had a ruddy great ditch inbetween(that's what it felt like anyway) and each time I overcame an anxiety attack(panic or otherwise) I took a step...ohhh the amount of times i took 4 back is another story!!!. Visualise your light...visualise your steps...use a lake if you like and the light a lantern at the otherside. Then stepping stones across. Deep breaths work amazingly. So does writing. Write write write. It's great therapy and you may start to see a pattern...triggers even. You can then see times, days and even events....when you are up and when you are down. Each time you feel like you are so low...you can't...you just can't do a thing...memorise that light and will yourself to gradually move...at your own pace. There isn't any rights or wrongs here and you are in control of every step you take...unlike other things. If you arent seeing a pro...do it. Please?. If you don't want to...thats fine also. Unfortunately with A+D there's periods of hope and there is periods of complete darkness and despair and it feels soooo lonely. What worked for me...doesnt work for everyone but breathing for me was the best thing. Positive thinking also...i know, I know...wtf right?. What I mean is this. Think of something that fills you with such joy. Could be the birth of a child...could be graduating...could be dropping a fart in a movie theatre....whatever makes you smile or giggle...keep thinking about it. That can often lead to other positive events. Once your mood has lifted...be proud of yourself and mentally take that step forward. If all else fails...someone here is always around to support you. Everyone is lovely and altho we don't all have to agree...our experiences with this emotional rollercoaster is the same. And if you do happen to go 4 steps back...theres a whole site of people here willing and guiding and supporting you if you do stumble. Take care. J

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell in reply to Janieliza]

So well said Janie. You made me smile. Especially the fart in the movie theater. I raised boys now have a grandson and farts are a big deal in our family. I always said I was going to write a book called, “Farts are Funny” I have so many stories. I could even incorporate some medical aspects from our digestive system etc. but like everything else it’s only a thought. I’ve completely shut down. I felt like Victory 7’s Post was hand written by me. Victory7 you just have to force yourself. Get up, get out and get active. Other than shutting down I have a different situation surrounding it. I’m a hypocrite. I give advice as a patient, mom, medical professional etc. I just don’t take it well. I do however learn a lot myself from looking at my situation from another’s eyes. I’m here to talk Victoria7. I just can’t put it as good as Janie. I can however chat and listen. I don’t have much life. I think with anxiety and depression we care so much but it strips us of any motivation to change. I think that’s how it is for me. I only do stuff when someone else needs me to if that. Not for myself. I cancelled another doctors appt today. That’s why I don’t go to therapy. I can’t even make myself go to important doctors. Shutting down is normal but getting up is achievable. I wish you the best Victoria7!

Janie you are on point as always! ❤️

[Janieliza in reply to Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

Just say it as I see it lovely. Sometimes I make sense and other times i think 🤔...whaaat? Lol. Ahhh yes the good old digestive system..now there's a topic I could talk about for days. Farts are hilarious. My mother wouldn't allow it(how on earth can one stop it...forgive my use of word to my mother but...idiot!!). I swear I thought I'd take off some days!. Silent but deadly...thats my son. We always ALWAYS know when Ollies farted and we run for cover. My daughter tends to blame the dogs...as I do..or i blame the kids...just kidding. You must do that book one day...y' hear me? We 'll get you there..and don't forget me when your famous😉😂. I'm also going to say you are an amazing listener, a wonderful shoulder to have and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for that. Hugs x

[sandii100 in reply to Janieliza]

Thank you. Trying my best to keep it together

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell in reply to Janieliza]

My husband of 18 years has only sklipped a very few times on accident and tooted. He was raised not to in the company of woman. They heard their mother fart one time and wrote it on the calendar that was on the fridge. My mom does those silent deadly farts when we are shopping then quickly scoots off leaving me looking at items and realizing I’m standing in stink as other people come walking down the aisle making me the pawn. It’s like a game. I’m learning when I see her scoot I need to forget what I’m looking for and run. I will however if I don’t catch her in time call her out quick before people enter the stink zone. My husband was shocked when he joined my family about the amount of gas that passes in my family. I told him early in that I don’t hold for anyone. That causes butt cancer. My mom had a massive heart attack and was kept out of it for 4 days prior to her second heart surgery. I was very nervous. The night before her surgery I was panicky and I told the nurse I was worried that she hadn’t had a bowel movement and that when she woke up she would have a hard time straining after heart surgery. She said that’s not a problem we can’t worry about that. Well after mom’s surgery she wouldn’t come out of it. She started into major organ failure, had to go on dialysis, stay into stead etc. Even her surgeon cried because I worked in that unit. He knew us well and had done mom’s first surgery. 2 weeks later we had an ultrasound and her colon was the size of a melon. It was awful. She was severely septic. When the doctor took me and showed me the X-Ray I was shocked. So was he. The back up of stool had spread into her bloodstream almost killing her. I told him what I told the nurse and he said it was a big problem. I wanted to sue them. My mom has lost so much as a result but is now doing well comparatively but has been through so much. So we celebrate poop in my family. I know it’s crazy. Sorry to tell this huge story but if anyone went through what we did they would too. I encourage her to poop fart or whatever she has to do! So now we’ve made it a game. My husband still doesn’t fart but my family does and he’s stuck. If he really pisses me off and passes out drunk I eat ice cream and put the covers up over him and truly punish him. It’s all a game. He doesn’t even know that part. His reactions are priceless though. So anyway, Farts are Funny. It’s rude possibly but hilarious and a perfectly natural body function. I’m laughing so hard right now. Sorry for this babbling.

[sandii100]

Thanks guys. I feel like we lost everything even though we still have our lives which I’m thankful for

[Janieliza]

They could come from a perfect home. Trust me when I say not every psychopath/nasty from society comes from a broken home or has been abused. There are those who have been raised in a perfectly good decent home and they abuse it whether it's the wrong crowd or peer pressure. The parents can't always be blamed.

[Janieliza]

No it's horrendous and awful at anytime never mind this time of year. I understood btw exactly what you meant...my reply sounded abit off and I didn't intend it to be like that. Sorry for that.

[Windy101]

Are you insured? It seems people are stealing a lot this holiday season, with packages disappearing off porches and more robberies than usual. I'm so sorry this happened to you. You didn't deserve it and whoever did this has certainly bought him/herself a lof of bad karma.

My Christmas did not also turn out how I planned, at all. At times like this we really have to think about what's important in life: the people we love, the true meaning of Christmas, and that we live better than most of the world because we have water, clothing, shelter, food, medical care ... things so many people struggle for every single day. We are all blessed with riches beyond what most people could imagine. We just don't see those people, because they're far away in different parts of the world. Think about the original manger and how little there was in it until the kings arrived.

There are also so many people right in our own towns who spent Christmas in shelters as they have no home.

It's terrible to be robbed and I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I know that it's scary and upsetting. I hope you can take strength and comfort from your loved ones and the fact that you are all safe. The robbers got what they wanted, but it might help to talk to the police about how to make your home more secure.

There will be better Christmasses for you for many years to come, I'm sure. In the meantime, I hope you feel happier soon and can keep your anxiety under control to help yourself and your family.

[sandii100]

Thanks for your replies. I’ve been home all day because it’s too cold to go anywhere. I’ve been coloring in my coloring books to distract myself and trying to keep busy with my 6 year old. I’ve been re reading Claire weekes for the third time so I might read a few pages today, just for some reassurance. It’s been a tough day and the weather is depressing me too

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

Oh my goodness! That is just awful. I am so very sorry that happened to you! I was robbed of 190.00 recently and it was so violating. All by trying to be a Good Samaritan and I know how bad that felt and that’s nothing compared to what you went through. I hope the police can help you. I wish I could give you a great big hug right now. I’m sending you virtual hugs from Virginia right now. I commend you for keeping it together for your children. Sometimes as mothers I think we draw our power from our kids. Just seeing them gives us the strength to hold it together. You also though need some mom time. Is there anyone that could keep the kids so you can have a date night or a girls night with a friend? I think it’s important that you have that time to process and decompress. Get a massage, go to therapist etc. Don’t hold onto this. It wasn’t until I decided to forgive and let go that I could feel normal again. At least my normal. I love nature. I walk across to the lake dock, or take a walk in the woods and just cry it out. I wish there was more we could do. Again I’m so sorry! Bless you sweetheart. I’m here if you need to just talk it out. My minor experience was nothing like yours but you got me by the heart strings. I hope you get the help you need from the police and the peace of mind needed to move forward soon. ❤️

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

Sorry. Not true. Maybe sometimes obviously but my sister and I could not be more different. She is wild to say the least! I’m the exact opposite. How can it be my parents fault if I turned out so differently. Christian, wouldn’t hurt a fly unless I had to. My sister is a big time kick butt party animal bad ass. She would steal for drugs as needed probably. I wish I could be more bad ass but it’s not me. So it goes both ways. I always heard the preachers kid is the wildest.

[sandii100]

Just found out that the insurance company is barely paying us anything at all because we never got the fancy jewelry insurance when we started the policy. I wonder if anything is ever going to go right....I’m so distraught