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First Christmas gathering without Grandpa

We're heading to my in- laws family gathering. They use to to like a family reunion every year, stopped a few years back. This year, at my grandpa in law's funeral (we lost him this Oct) my husband's second cousin (?) asked if they did one this year would we go. We said yes, T & E are super sweet & we miss seeing them & other extended family members. The party is today, in car now.... trying to keep it together. Grandpa was Santa at these parties.... My husband is struggling too, keeping it in. Plus having to deal with his dad, he's an alcoholic... & my husband is his only child (& dad is single)... it's been tough....

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melbrown, holding your hand. Hold the spirit of Christmas past in your heart and you will feel the presence of Grandpa Santa. No one can take away the memories we hold dear. xx

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Hi mel. This is inevitably going to be a testing time for you when you are already going thro enough. If i could give you calming words to help you thro it....i would. All I can say is if you need any of us...i say us bcas everyone's been so lovely and welcoming to me...take 5 if you need to and pop in and let us know how your doing. Hugs. J

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I am doing okayish.... great to see family, lots of love. My husband's cousins showed up, which was a very nice surprise. And we were able to support one another & keep it light hearted. They had photos showing of Christmas parties from the past, it was a little sad seeing photos of grandpa & others we've lost. A family member has stepped into grandpa's big Santa boots... he did a great job. My father in law.... 😧.... what can we do? Will be happy once we drop him off at home. ❤

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mel, I'm glad you did a follow up. I was thinking about you tonight. It sounds like bittersweet emotions that you are feeling and that's normal. It sounds like most of the evening was on a positive note even with some sadness. As for your father-in-law, you are absolutely correct, what can you do? Some things we cannot change in life and have to close our eyes to and let the chips fall where they may.

Get some rest tonight, you did well. xx

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