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I’m really worried cause after a situation with a family member that I had to back away from cause the unhealthy ways of relating, came back in my life slowly being nice but she’s very fickle and all of a sudden started being rude. She’s drunk though but it hurts so bad. Once I started to rest to sleep I felt my thoughts and emotions go from one extreme to another and I didn’t trust myself or feel like I understood myself. Felt out of control and I felt like I was going to dissociate. It feels like if I don’t face it soon, that will happen. I hope to get in touch with a counsellor tomorrow. I don’t want to get to the point where I’m not in control or aware of myself. It’s so scary. Any thoughts or experience with this? I may not even have the right idea of it but it doesn’t seem right what’s going on and I don’t know how to deal.

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I think you're doing the right thing by going to a counsellor. I've been doing my own dissociation for the past 15 years -- yes, that long -- and it's hurt me long-term. Tell the counsellor how you feel and stay in touch with your feelings.

I'd cut the family member out of my personal life. Be civil at family gatherings and leave it at that. Drunk or not, she has no right to hurt you. Your feelings matter too. You cut her out of your life before for a reason. Remember that reason or you'll end up hurting all over again.

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fauxartist

I know when many people get drunk they can say and do the most hurtful and horrific things and often the next day not even remember them. I hope you can find help soon. Hold on.

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BELAwesome in reply tofauxartist

Yeah, she forgets easily but she also never apologizes, that I can recall. Unless being sarcastic I think.

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BELAwesome in reply tofauxartist

The problem is she is drunk most of the time and she’s my mom. I can’t fully avoid her 😔. We need an intervention. She has avoided help in the past but I may need to go with both of my sisters together to face her. If she’s able to regularly get so frickin drunk, that’s cray. Lol. Sorry, I’m talking funny now. I’m so annoyed with the situation and don’t know how to actually help her. It’s hurt...

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what a lot of people don't remember saying cannot be 'un-said- it cuts too deep and cannot be forgotten by who the words cut into. You have to remove the toxic people from your life, even family members can be put on the outside of your boundaries you create for your well being. Give yourselves an out such as a time limit when you have to be exposed to these people because of family functions or what ever, and stick to your plan, before they get too drunk, your long gone and out of the firing line. Good luck, and know your worth it to be treated with respect.

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