Feeling guilty and think everything is my fault?

[Maf46c]

Hi everyone! I am a people pleaser so if something goes wrong I immediately think it’s my fault and start feeling guilty. Help!

[katewilderness]

Sometimes I play out the scenario I feel guilty about with the roles reversed- If I feel like it would be reasonable to be upset with the other person, I apologize and move on. If not, I just try to move on (remembering that I would not be upset if I were in their shoes). Helps a little

[Isaack]

Well don't blame yourself too much. You only need to please those who accept you and love you.

[b1b1b1]

I struggled with that, but have improved. Start slowly. Select one smallish thing that you don't want to do, or don't agree with and please yourself rather than the other person. You can do this politely. One thing you can say is "that doesn't work for me right now." It gets easier as you practice.