Lost a son 7 years ago...

[SRenee7]

His 28th birthday is coming up and the aniexty is coming back. Is there something wrong with me? Why can't my family understand? How can I make it better? I want to enjoy life again....

[20Voices]

No there is nothing wrong with you. The loss of a close relative is always difficult and grief affects people differently. My aunt lost her son 2 years ago and I know she will feel that loss every year as does my uncle when he lost my aunt. My uncle was upset last year because people were telling him he should move on. I spoke to him and said that you can't just switch off the loss of the person you loved. I suggested that he stop worrying about what others said and also that rather than forget my aunt he should remember her. I told him that she will always be in his heart and that she wouldn't want him to be so sad. I also suggested that he go back and see his grief counselor.

He is a lot happier now and did go back and see the grief counselor for a little more support. My Gran missed my Granddad for 40 years. I asked her once how she coped and she said she still remembered him but she had other family that needed her and that was what kept her going.

Maybe speaking to someone would be good for you. Is there something that you could do to honor your son or as a reminder to him. I know people who make things for a charity or hospital ward or raise money in memory of their lost loved ones. They look on it as a way to remember them and not to mourn them, because they know their loved one would not want them to be unhappy.

I hope this helps you and gives you some suggestions as to what could help. Definitely go and see someone for better help than my suggestions.

Take care.

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Lovely reply 20Voices xx