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I just need someone who understands


Lately I've been feeling lost and like no one understands. There's many people in my life who say they are there for me and want to help, but how can they help with something they don't understand themselves. I'm constantly feeling everything at once, but have no motivation to change it due to my anxiety and depression. I just sit there, stressed and overcome with sadness. All in all, I'm just looking for a friend who I can talk to who understands what I'm going through.

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I'm sorry you're going through this, but I do understand where you are coming from. I've been there to that point of feeling like I can't push through and having no motivation, but it will get better. I'm here if you need someone to talk to! Sending positive vibes your way :)

I'm glad to know it gets better eventually. Thank you.

I completely understand. I been feeling exactly the same and it's straining my relationship with others. It feels like will never end sometimes.

catgirlm in reply to Zuixdoll

Yeah I have no friends because I can never get up and go anywhere so everyone hates me.

I'm feeling this way for the past 6 weeks. It's awful! I'm crying out for help in every direction it just doesn't seem to be working.

catgirlm in reply to Muchneeded

Yeah, I've been doing the same, but nobody is taking me seriously this time.


Hi have you been to the doctors and are you getting any medical help?

Maybe look at joining a local support group too? x

catgirlm in reply to Hidden

I was on medication and it helped some, but I lost my insurance a couple months back and haven't been able to afford it since.

2stroke in reply to catgirlm


I take it your in the states ,going by the insurance part.

thank heavens for the NHS. May not be always the best ,but its trying.

if only the government would leave off giving inane advice.leave it to the people in it.

1 step forward,2 steps back.

I'm still in bed but I'm laying with my 14 year old daughter. I love her so much and I miss being her pal. I wish I could snap out of this quickly so I can bond with her!


Its not great feeling like this.

you need to get up and make yourself busy even if you feel to tired to do it.

If you sit around expecting this to go away it wont, you need to fill your mind with other things that will push the anxiety out of your mind.

Take action!

You can chat anytime with me and I am sure the other people on the forum would be willing to listen too.

Take care of yourself.

I have always been a true friend to several people. I have always made their problems my problems and I fixed them. They might have needed advise, money, a place to live, a car, food, whatever it was I made it happen throughout my entire life. So at age 42, I became severely depressed and started having anxiety attacks. I stayed in my bedroom and neglected responsibilities including the most important one...mothering my children. I lost 120 pounds and have become very weak. I even find that taking a shower is an overwhelming task. So during this dark time in my life, I kept thinking that someone would come and "save me". Someone will come to my side and talk to me and encourage me to get up! Surely someone will text me and offer to take me to planet fitness to help me rebuild my strength. NOPE! I am still laying here after two years and I finally realized that NOBODY gives a FUCK! They will give you a listening ear once or twice as long as it doesn't inconvenience them, but that's just because they are nosy. I am bitter. I will never be the kind caring soul that I used to be.

Fortynfedup in reply to Ladychef

Been there. You will believe in people again, you just have had the wrong friends x


Hey! I know it sucks to have depression. I actually feel a lot like you almost all the time. It's very hard for me to just try and get through the day. Most of the time I just don't feel and just scratch through the day barely. I hate my life a lot and it doesn't help for me to never know happiness for 18 years. If any of you want to talk about your problems or just want to help I totally wouldn't be averse to that I think.

I can really relate to what you're saying. I too am frustrated at how unmotivated I am to do anything! I feel like a failure and depressed and hopeless.

I did just get the idea that maybe I could dedicate myself to making face masks for myself and others - maybe 2 a day. Would like to do something worthwhile then I might feel a little better. See if I can do it.

I feel for you and hope you can feel less alone.

I feel the exact same way. Sometimes I will open up to my family and I will get shut down instantly. Luckily I do have some friends I can call but they don’t live in the same country as me. Have you thought of keeping a journal? It has made me feel way better

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