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My son has social anxiety

My oldest son is about to turn 24. He was always a bit shy, but didn't seem to have too much trouble making friends and interacting with others. Until he started high school. Then it seemed like he hit a brick wall. Hard. Graduated high school, barely. He always refused to take meds. Was going to group therapy for approx 1 year and it seemed to help. He got a job on his own (in a FedEx warehouse), moved into his own apartment. Stopped the therapy. Then his hours got cut and he looked for another job. Hired at Lowe's. Fired a month ago because he can't go up to customers and talk with them. He's desperately looking for another job but can't seem to get hired. I don't know what to do to help him. Therapy? But what kind? Psychiatrist? Group therapy? Meds? I just don't know what to do! He's such a wonderful young man, but he seems to be locked inside of a scared and trembling person. I love him so much and I want to help him. Any advice is so very much appreciated.

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I would really recommend therapy or a psychiatrist and psychologist . Maybe some low dose meds to give him the push he's looking for to be okay around people . I'm 24, and I know how he feels . It's like a feeling of being trapped in our own heads , like part of us is gone and no longer here . It really is a distressing feeling .

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Thank you. I'm looking for a therapist now. I am so sorry that he and you struggle like this. Praying for him and you. Hope to find a good doctor and maybe a support group for families so that we who love you will know how to help.

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Anyone know of support groups for families of young people suffering from social anxiety in Houston, Texas area?

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Hi, If you search the main ADAA website: adaa.org/

Look under find help. Either group or individual therapy. One thing to remember is anxiety is not completely "cured". We manage it and allow it exist as part of our life. There is a big misconception that there is a complete cure. Most individuals that have anxiety sensitivity will always be more sensitive, but it is how we process the anxiety and body feelings that make us stronger. Meds (sometimes) and therapy help manage the situation, but life will always have stressors. Your son needs to accept that fact and understand there are others have the same anxiety and feelings. Its not wrong-- it just needs to be dialed down.

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