Social anxiety has taken over so much of my Life 😔

I just don’t know what to do with myself. I feel like my social anxiety is so bad that I want to avoid people. (Which I know is a cause of the anxiety and I’ve been doing it my whole life) . Even though thats not really what I want at all. But all I do constantly is think about others and never focus on myself. I’m always comparing myself to people. Or jealous of them. Or feeling left out of a situation etc. Or feeling like I’m not good enough or funny enough in group conversations . I’m trying to figure out how to change that. How to stop caring so much about what other people think so I can get over this freaking anxiety !! It’s taking over my life. Do meds really help with social anxiety ? Does anybody have experience with that .

It just stresses me out that every single moment of my life , even when I’m in the comfort of my own home... I am thinking about others and not my own self ! I’ve started to work on why that might be with my therapist . And we are finally starting to get somewhere with it. Where I may have stemmed from in my childhood. I just feel like it’s going to be a long long process and unlearning. And I’m just so sad I’ve lost so much of my life living in fear

[Agora1]

Hi DepressedLibra, unfortunately working out our issues can take time. Since they

didn't happen overnight, we need to accept that it will take some time to resolve.

Once you have the root of your issue, it is easier for you and your therapist to work

out the problem.

There seems to be a little loss of self confidence and self esteem. Loving yourself is

important as well before you can truly love another. Continue putting your effort

in going forward. Taking baby steps in social situations will eventually pay off.

One day, you will walk into a room with a confident smile and stride. It is then that

you will know you won over anxiety. Stay Positive dear Libra xx

[Dolphin14]

I have been working on this for quite some time. My guess with you was a childhood issue. When I got to the end of your post I see that is the root of your problem.

Part of my struggle was just understanding that concept. What I thought was " normal" in childhood set my life up for so many issues.

Self confidence was taken away from us. Use your strength to work through this. It's hard work but life has not been wasted. When you begin to take your power back the life transformation is fabulous.

You can do this. Stick with your therapy. Pick small things you can do for yourself that make you happy. Eventually it will become comfortable and you will want to continue. You will learn to set boundaries with the people.

It will all be worth it

❤️🐬

[Woodhouse16]

It's good you are trying help from a therapist I've had help like that in the past but one man in particular was good for me but sadly stopped due to having to give up his work to look after his sick wife and I've never found a replacement to match his standards. It's very difficult having social anxiety something I have lived with all of my life and for some reason started at a very early age which has prevented me through life of doing so much going places ect and has been a constant problem for me too. I also bother so much what people think of me compare myself to others get constantly jealous critical ect of others and are very lonely. When I read your post it very much feels you are me even down to not feeling uncomfortable with family too.

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These are just comments so welcome to disagree

My students like me can be very sensitive and very in tune. We pick up in body language snd etc very well It hurts extra hard. Or our loneliness is one thing but I was never taught social skill and so awkward to try and say hello or can I be a friend. So we feel dumber each time

Pets or plants are not rejecting and can give us lovd and acceptance. Not theory but bfffff fir sure

Clubs can help

Sometimes older people are desperate for company love to talk or have ur company big do quick to judge czz as n be very loving

Sensitive people can be wonderful

If given patience takes m Ed time to develop confidence and open up

All I’m saying is lots of people are likfvhhis and while some people ding except us or wexsrent like the mr popular

There are others who may secretly be looking and prefer quiet or sensitive or shy people

Like the taste in music

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Is someone’s. Gee wish I could talk to her She prob wokk u lint like me cuz I’m not mr football hero. Darn

Sure u get the point

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My former students range from five to 70 one was a man. K?

Too many bombardsrded by ads and Hollywood and myth that Guys like this or that

Are all women alike?? Course not

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Gilligans island sorry

I get this all the time

U would like me. Cosmo says guys like

Cosmo mag I use to scare the predictor away from

The hen house

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