I am struggling so much right now and I can't seem to do anything right. I am so depressed that I can barely move. I have not motivation. Everything is getting worse.
I can't do this : I am struggling so... - Anxiety and Depre...
I can't do this
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Singgirl3
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Tell me whats going on
Yeah vent if you need to
I am depressed but I have no idea what is causing it that just aggravates me more
You can do this. Breathe. I know the feeling, its awful to not know why your so down. I am there too. It's lightened up a bit for me in this moment but all day today I was in that space. Cry if you need to. But know this will pass. And its going to be ok.
You have support. Stay connected. Don't isolate. This will pass.
It's been over a week now. At what point will you realise that no one here can really help solve your depression problems or make it go away?
Why not go find yourself a good psychiatrist who will listen to you and can properly diagnose you and put you on a treatment plan to help you recover from this deep depression & anxiety?
People here, just like people in your life(assuming you have them) might tell you that they can provide you support but they can't do that. No one can because what you need is not support but treatment and not until you get that will you get relief.
• in reply toKobojunkie
Were not triing to solve it just help them threw it. And the last thing someone needs is harsh ass words
Kobojunkie• in reply to
The last thing a person with mental illness needs is to be lied to yet again.
Our heads already do a lot of that to us to keep us complacent. Friends and family lie to us to make us smile for them. We should not be serving our own more lies.
What we need is someone to tell us the truth be it harsh or soft. The truth is what we need. Not nice words to help us continue what we have been doing wrong all this while.
This particular poster has been crying for over 10 days that she has been suffering and for all that time, no one cared to tell her to get off her butt and get to the doctor immediately.
Sounds like you are projecting your own issues on to other people. This forum is not for this purpose. Also in the US it's been documented that people who live in close knit communties and have a common purpose experience very low rates of depression/amxiety( like the Amish). Remember the phrase- Idle hands are the devils playground.
Huh? What exactly do you think I am projecting here?
All I have done is simply state what I know to be of fact. Lying to any person, especially a mentally ill person does not help at all. Life is lived best when one confronts the truth of one's existence. And this is true not just for those without mental health issues.
idle hands the devil's playground? Are you suggesting then that those who experience depression do so because they are idle?/lazy individuals? Depression may be low among the Amish but it is there regardless.
We only know of the last 10 days. Who knows how long it took this person to get up the courage to reach out for help. Being supportive and kind may not be a cure, but it sure doesn't hurt, and it's NOT a lie to be compassionate. This web site has helped me, and if I can make one person feel a little better, even if I can't cure them, I will. Peace
mitch404• in reply to
I also find your words a bit cold. Perhaps a combination of group support and professional help is the right answer for this particular individual? Everyone responds differently to different treatment methods. Taking a pill as a possible quick fix - and moving on may work for you, but not for someone else, so pls show greater empathy.
all the empathy anyone of us here needs is the truth and nothing but.
You're trying to diagnose people you have never met or seen. That is not the purpose of this. Not cool.
Why has stating it is essential for us all to face reality got to do with diagnosing anyone?
gogogirl• in reply to
Great post!
What you don't think I tried? Maybe if I just had my parents support then I could go see someone but I don't so I can't.
parents don't always give support. Many in the general public remain ignorant of the situation. of the mentally ill, so you need to find you a way to speak to professionals regardless.
if you have an appointment coming then good but still understand that even those professionals can only support you as much as you take responsibility for your mental wellbeing. you are expected to still community what you feel is still wrong with them, on your own schedule, not theirs.
if coping mechanisms is what you seek, ask for those so that you can get a list of them to help you.
Sounds like you are clueless to some other person's needs. May I also say this? Both of my late parents drank part of the time when we were kids. They did recover later, and had a wonderful fifty something year marriage that was not long enough for them. I miss them both every single minute of every day. SO stop already!
Are you paying attention at all? What has telling him that it is ok if his parents don't support him got to do with being clueless to needs?
Which country try do you live in please? Thinking of you. I can relate.
• in reply toSinggirl3
You have support here and no matter what some peoples opions might be having support is a very nice feeling.
Everyone needs support. Isolation is sometimes a cause for a problem or at least it exasberates it. People can do treatment or even talk therapy depending on what they need and still get support. Over 1 in 4 people in the US have some sort of mental issue. Some even associate it with the economy , long recession, isolation and worry from that as well as the politics. Makes sense. I know someone personally ( not professionally) who says that many of his clients have issues due to the economy/politics etc.
I too, have been in your situation before and know how very difficult this can be. People on here, each in their own way, want to help you. Please share if you can - in your own words, and no one else's - what you feel will help you. Things can and will get better for you at the pace that's comfortable for you. Remember that you are not alone.
Hi Singgirl,
I'm sorry you're feeling so awful - most of us know from experience that it's the worst feeling in the world; you feel utterly hopeless.
There is good news though; you are not alone. If we are on this board it's for a reason. We have seen the demon you are fighting and can tell you that it can help. If you can't pinpoint the source of your depression I would say it's very possible it's caused by a chemical imbalance.
While Kobojunkie came off a little callous, they are right that you should seek some psychiatric help. If it's situational they can help counsel you and if it is chemical there are a plethora of great medications. It might take time but you will get there! Stay strong.
As harsh as kobojunkie may sound. It's true, if something is not working then it's time to try something else. The first step is wanting to get better. You have to fight for yourself, we all here know how difficult that can be, but you have to fight. words of encouragement can only go so far. The truth is not always nice and people are not always what you need them to be, so you need to take control, find your reason to keep going. Maybe you can't get to the help you need, then go online. Bettethelp is online licensed therapists.
Nobody lives in isolation. Sometimes all someone needs is someone to validate or listen instead of meds or being shoved away. Yes, life can be tough of course which is why people need each other. NAMI is also a great way to become educated. Also, people on this site are in different countries, and live in different cultures/situations and that also can be a factor. For instance in the US PTSD via the military is treated as a pathology due to the isolation and small percentage of people serving. In Israel however, with over fifty per cent of the people serving at any one time, and with them serving the home country in close proximity it is treated as a normal reaction to a battle situation. In the US more people need jobs, more people need to be social face to face ( not online), and we need a common purpose. I am an older person, and I honestly do not remember hearing so much about depression/ anxiety especially from young people as we do today ( unless they lived in dire straits or experienced poverty/discrimination. However, these days we often hear of middle to rich kids even trying or succeeding to committ suicide. So much so there is now someting called mental health first aid. There is a website.
I feel the same most of the time lately
Would you like someone to listen more from someone who has been there? What do you think is the root for this? I am here.
Step away from the computer and call a friend or family member in the area who you can talk to. They don't even have to be nearby. We all need support, some of us more than others. We're not all understood by our families past or present. Don't feel like a failure or such, everyone makes mistakes. Remember that well, it's true.
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