I really didn't know what to call this, but here’s the scenario:
You in a social setting and someone approaches you and starts a conversation. You really want to talk with the person, maybe they're a “bigwig” in your field, or they’re someone you're interested in romantically, and you can't talk to them?
Some of us are just shy around strangers, but I really believe that we become insecure around others, and that's part of our ADHD. We want to be social, but the one-on-one is too awkward, so our eyes wonder, we fidget, and we don't act interested. If we try to correct ourselves, we appear creepy- like we're staring at someone as they talk.
I also find myself losing words, and not being able to think of words, or subjects, quickly. For example, my work in the data management field, like all fields, has its own verbiage; and the other day, I was talking with someone and totally lost the word I was looking for. I had not take my meds and looked like a complete noobi, which I'm not. I was so embarrased. That's so unlike me. But, it happens often; why?
I'm the type that would rather discuss a “sticky” matter, or request something through an email, than face to face.
My meds help me a little, but this is still something I'm very aware off. What do you do to genuinely listen to someone, yet not appear creepy, or disinterested?? And, how do you deal with lost words during a conversation?