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Got the call I was waiting for from the police to see if it would go to court. And there are saying there is not enough hard evidence to take it to court and have closed the case. So my boyfriend now wants me to complain about the police and try to find away to get it back open. Otherwise if it stays as it is he can't be with me. Cuz people will think that I was lieing about the rape that. Includes his family too.. I'm just tired of all the stress And having To repeat myself all the time keep getting bad headaches and pains all over my body.. Just wish it was all over and never have to talk about that day again.

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Robbie138

Oh no this is awful, so this low life gets to walk around Scotfree after what he has done, where is the justice and to make matters worse the so called boyfriend is saying if you don't get the case opened again he walks because everyone will think you are lying. I hope your family are behind you and giving you the support you need, your going to need someone to talk to,be it through your Dr or rape crisis. I know your head will be hurting with repeating yourself over and over but you are going to need all the help you can get. As for the boyfriend I would get rid, he is no good he has shown his true colours and you don't need his family either. I'm truly sorry for you I wish you all the best in the world and always remember someone will always be here if you need them. Take care xxx

Hi I completely agree with Robbie. If your bf doesn't back you then he's not much of a catch. I would chuck him back in the sea with the other poisonous fish!

You can ring the rape crisis centre and they should help make you feel better. I was raped too many years ago now and they were brilliant with me. They will always talk to you and understand what you are going through. x

Seriously your boyfriend shouldn't care about what other people think and be supporting you. The last thing you need right now is emotional blackmail, what a pig. Stay strong, as mentioned get help and talk to others in confidence.

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Olderal

I would get rid of that boyfriend and if his family think you are lying (which they may not. You don't have to assume your boyfriend knows what they think) then stuff them too.

The only bright side to all this is that you will find out who your friends are. That is worth quite a lot but its a pity you 'll find out this way.

The only person who's opinion counts is yours . You know you were not lying. Whether you pursue it further with the police is entirely up to you and you have a perfect right to decide either way.

Olderal

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shazlou

I want t hrougth a similar thing not enough evedence I really feel for u at this time get as much support as I can there alway mental health crisis team smaritan on evening. Go to gp for referals self refer to take crisis . I will have good day bad days and plenty of up and down but it does get easier over time . Don't blame yourself . And he might of for away with prison but what goes around comes around my abuser lost his mind his family job everything and now I'm the one who has everything especially my gergous little girl

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sweetiepye

I'm sorry you didn't get the support you deserve, from the law, you boy friend and his family. It's no wonder you're feeling down, but you must stay smart and strong now. Can you get a restraining order against the man who abused you? It should keep him away from you and it will be another documentation to use in case you ever make it to court. I wouldn't let this go. He will do it again either to you or some other woman. If your boy friend doesn't support you in this then he will never support you in any thing. Is this the kind of man you want? I know this is harsh sounding, but I want you to realize the decisions you make now could impact your entire life. Take care and let us know how you are doing.

Pam

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Lizbett

Two words: ditch him. Him and his family are not worth getting sick over. I think people who answered a similar question from you 11 days or so ago gave you you similar advice.

So you have an important choice to make. Don't wait in hope that he won't go ahead with what he's saying. I have a feeling that he will. He doesn't belive, love or respect you. You DESERVE better than what he's offering - which essentially nuthin'.

Best wishes 🌸🌼🌷

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