The love of my life for 20 years suffers terribly from depression, OCD , low self esteem and anxiety.
This l have discovered from reading Dorothy Rowe's book "Depression- the way out of your prison".
Tablets have not helped him .Drinking to excess used to but caused other problems, particularly for me.
l did not understand, l do a little more now. l also realise now that my reactions to his behaviour probably made his pain worse. l am a quiet person. He always talked a lot but this increased over the years . He could talk non stop for hours. lt drove me mad. He appeared selfish, putting his needs first and seemed unaware of mine. l did not realise he was "fighting for his life" -from the book.
As a result we split up over and over again. This probably made his insecurity and anxiety worse.
Now , apart again, he does not seem to want me in his life . l've learnt now that he has so much to cope with , l probably add to his problems. l love him so much and feel guilty for not understanding . There is so little understood about mental health issues, and everyone is different too. l wish l had read the book years ago and would recommend it to those with a loved one with these issues.
With or without me , he is a great guy and l wish he could find peace and relaxation.
Any advice anyone ?