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Can't have a child because of mental illness

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The topic of pregnancy has come up now in my therapy sessions where I speak to a therapist about my mental health condition. Since my mental health diagnosis in 2021, with Schizophrenia and Bipolar, I have become more fragile---I can't tolerate altitude changes, I don't have a good sense of balance, I have anxiety over going to the restroom and washing my hands...etc. I realize that my body and mind now work together in a poor way where I'm not as confidence in my abilities and in fact, I am disabled and can't do some tasks that I use to be able to do...I can't hike up a mountain without trying and then being paralyzed with fear and anxiety where I can't take anymore steps forwards to go up or down an incline or decline. I can't go on an airplane because the altitude and cabin pressure affects my brain and ability to get enough oxygen to my brain so that I won't panic. The spatial distances in me and the other object is where I fail to find balance. So, with these failed things, I don't believe, I can have sex or bear a child to term. My mind and body suffer greatly with coordinating a healthy response to simple tasks and I turn into a panic mode where I'm seized with fear of falling, losing balance, not getting enough air in my lungs, and dying. My new therapist says I might be dealing with more than just Schizophrenia and Bipolar such as PTSD, OCD, and Panic Disorder.

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It does not sound to me like you could be taking care of a child right now. Is that something you want for your future?

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Beautifulsky in reply toShyeLoverDoctor

I grew up in a large family. So I know what it's like taking care of others needs before mine. Right now I'm single and living with my twin sister. I don't have anyone physically handicap or a child to take care of. However, I do have an 85 year old godfather who is around who I take out sometimes. I really thought in my 20s, that I would have a child by now in my 30s. But because of bad relationships and the development of this mental illness, I'm without a child right now. I want to reproduce and be like everyone else who has their own family but this mental illness makes me fragile. So my wants don't matter anymore regarding wanting to have children. I even wonder if sex would be too much for me to handle, like I couldn't experience it in a normal healthy way because of stress overload.

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I will not give you advice, because my situation is not just like yours, and I don't really know you. However, I will share that I suffered from PTSD after an auto accident in September and was helped a lot by psychotherapy. I was able to explore more than just the effects of the accident, such as my ADHD and intrusive, negative thoughts. But I was really helped by my therapist, and I am continuing to recover. The process takes as long as you need it, and you don't have to be making any major life decisions right now, while you work through all the issues that you are currently experiencing.

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Beautifulsky in reply toCatPerson2

Even though I go through therapy with a professional private counselor, I can work on my issues but I don't think this mental illness is going to leave me anytime soon. I think it will take YEARS to undo many years of unaccounted for and poorly dealt with emotional and psychological problems now in my 30s which I had since childhood.

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