Emotional

[Graciemae19]

Hi been feeling really sad and very tearful. Nearly 50 and havnt really got any true friends to talk to.

Feel so alone have my son and sister but don’t want to burden them with this.

[wobblybee Administrator Pioneer]

Hi Blossom09, welcome 🙂You mention your age, is it at all possible that your emotional problems are worsened by menopause symptoms🤔

It can be difficult to ‘see the wood for the trees’ at times, and sometimes we need help to navigate a way through. I joined a Women’s Self Help Group, admittedly I had to virtually force myself to go but overall I found it really helpful. It was a very small group, around 6 women, all with different situations they couldn’t deal with. We were led by an experienced Moderator, we listened and empathised with each other, and offered our own suggestions 🙂

There are other times when the most benefit can be from a mild antidepressant, I’ve tried that too. My doctor suggested trying an antidepressant short term and it was helpful🙂 I felt much more able to get things into perspective and be proactive in dealing with my situation.

As a starting point why don’t you speak to your GP..🙂

[Graciemae19]

Hello wobblybee thanks for your reply yes I’m going to speak to my doctor as it could well be menopause ☹️

[Evonne02]

I know exactly how you feel. I'm 55 and just accept that is how my life will be. For me my individual family members have shown me how worthy I am to them. I have a very large family and 2 children if my own. This totals at least 60 adults, yet only 3 want me in their lives. They all work very hard and do contact me once a week. That is more than enough for me. As for friends, well I have 2. One I speak to about once a month. The other I know due to her initially being friends with my parents. I see her daily some days as she's a very poorly lady. I've had friends for years or decades before. Although they were few, it hurt when I became disabled and was blocked. Another didn't want to know me once she finally found a boyfriend. And another was shocked to see the change in my lack of mobility and has blocked me since that day. I'm thinking if accepting new friends as I've joined zoom meetings for various things I'm interested in. To me it's scary so I'll take my time with it. Hurt due to past friends has gone. I think that you doing the same with be beneficial for your low mood and your self esteem. It could help if you could just start a blog about your life and daily activities and issues.

[Poppycat999 in reply to Evonne02]

Hi me and my husband have a little saying"Friends are nothing but a disappointment"

Its important not too get too attached to them it's best to have several that you are not too close to. You dont get upset if you have several friends believe me my acquaintances 😄are always complaining about being upset by their friends. When people meet new partners they forget their friends as they dont need them so much. People often use friends for their needs without meaning any harm. People dont really mean not to be nice it's just life. People are busy with their own needs. We have friends for different occasions that seems to work well. Always try and look at things from other peoples viewpoints.

Theres still lots of nice people out there.

[tigerjuz86]

Hi I’m sorry you feel alone but don’t ever feel a burden your son and sister will never think of you like that ,, I know how you feel though I’m 34 and don’t have no one just my little family partner daughter and dad they keep me strong , but I get what you mean some things you don’t want to talk about to them ,, I’m always here for a chat ,, have a cry then chin up you’re stronger then you think ,, take care lovely 😊 x

[Graciemae19 in reply to tigerjuz86]

Thank you for your kind words x

[tigerjuz86 in reply to Graciemae19]

Your very welcome 😁 x

[CoderMom]

Having real friends seems to be a challenge for many these days. I am same boat, lacking friends. I have one best friend, but no one else and he has his own stuff to deal with. Have you thought about joining a group or club or something where you can meet more people?

[Poppycat999]

Sorry to hear that. Wondering if you are maybe menopausal or not liking being around 50.I'm 60 this year not looking forward to it but looking forward to one day retirement and getting a pension not till 67!

The pandemic isnt helping although it has made people realise what's really important. If you are healthy and ok money wise that's loads to be thankful for. Your body changes alot from the menopause but it's a natural process for us all. I'm suffering prolaspe which is horrible but l try and eat healthy now and do what l can. Take each day as it comes and focus on the good parts of your life. Theres usually plenty of positives with life. You are doing the right thing already by speaking about it. Tell us what you think is making you upset? Menopause was a terrible shock for me with its 36 or more symptoms!

Good wishes are being sent to you.

[Graciemae19]

Thanks