I had pretty a long history of treating infertility. All has started when I was 24 and deciding to have a baby with my husband. We were just married and no one could suggest what was expecting for us in the future. We've been trying to get pregnant for 2 years – no result at all. Ovaries have good regular function and I have regular periods. then IUI & + 3 IVF (good ovarian response, embryos survive to day 5th but always BFN), 2 recent rounds of IVF with Donor eggs - the same negative outcome. Hiii! I’m now considering my next step. My husband and I decided to try surrogacy with my own eggs because we always have good embryo’s quality and the only thing they don’t survive in me to the beta-day. It was quite a controversial decision for both us since childbearing is still one of the most important things of pregnancy and women's life in particular. I want feeling it so hard.
However, this is a time for serious and crucial steps. I’ve got no particular question. Just want you to speak a bit about such things and procedures. Be free to share your experience and tips - thank ya!
Hi Ivankandsnake, My name is Janet. I am sorry to hear all you have been through in trying to conceive, I can totally relate. I also have had a lot to pass through in trying to conceive. Had my last child 6 years ago, and my husband and I decided on birth-control pills for 3 years and a half after that. Thereafter, we desired to have another child, and it's been difficult. We have had to visit one gynae after another, tried ovarian stimulation meds, had 2 unsuccessful IVFs, and nowattempting a third one. However, friends of mine have discussed the option of surrogacy and I think my husband and I may opt for that should this IVF fail again, but I seriously hope not. But I believe, all of these happen for a reason Ivankandsnake, let's keep hope alive, let's be patient, our babies would come at the right time.
I’m really grateful for your sincere response. Your last words were very touching and inspiring. I hope it’ll be exactly so as you said. What do you think about surrogacy as about a method itself? Do you accept it morally? I’ve been meeting many people who had mixed feelings about it.
Being at the beginning of our all races we thought we would gain our chance after the very first attempt but life used to surprise. And now being in the same boat with those involved in surrogacy we’re ready to face unexpected.
I'm glad my comments inspired you. Personally feel surrogacy is a good way of being assisted to achieve an end: pregnancy.
I had my reservations about it for a pretty long time until I read about other women's experiences, and how they feel so happy they opted for surrogacy. For as long as there is a mutual agreement between the parties involved, and no one's rights are being infringed on, it is absolutely acceptable. Like I said, you are being assisted.
However, I strongly believe in following one's intuition, and I will suggest you mentally accept it and feel good about it, before giving it a trial.
Yeah if I face moments of taking urgent decisions I’ll ask my heart (or intuition) before everything else how to respond . The success of all things completely depend on my own readiness and acceptance.
Despite this I must be really sure of the medical guarantees which could be provided by the chosen clinic. If the clinic introduces itself as a huge storage of egg donors, I’d like to see their true faces and receive an accurate data. I visited clinic (for egg donation) that couldn’t let me choose a donor. Another clinic was pretty good but its preparations before surrogacy to start would take a year or so.
Like a rational person I see the advantages of such procedures as surrogacy. As well I see the most attractive destinations to have such programs for today.
I hope I’ll have progress soon.
thanks a lot and great luck!